«Babban hutawa shine ya zama marar laifi. »Marco Tulio Cicero
A cikin al'adunmu, laifi shine jin daɗin da aka saba da shi, yana haifar da baƙin ciki da rashin jin daɗi saboda sanin aikata abubuwan da suka haifar da lahani ga wani.
Daga ma'anar fahimta, laifi shine motsin rai wanda mutane ke fuskanta saboda suna da tabbacin cewa sun haifar da lahani. A cikin ka'idar fahimta, tunani yana haifar da motsin rai, laifi ya samo asali ne daga ra'ayin zama sanadiyyar bala'in wani. Yana iya kasancewa batun mutanen da koyaushe suna jin laifin da ba shi da dalili saboda kuskuren fassarar ayyukansu, Wadannan mutane suna yawan shan wahala kuma suna jin laifi koyaushe ba tare da ainihin dalilai ko ba tare da ainihin laifin abin da ya faru ba, a cikin waɗannan sharuɗɗan, jin daɗin laifin ba shi da aiki.
Laifi na iya samun fa'ida kamar kare alaƙarmu. Jin laifin laifi yana faruwa galibi a cikin dangantaka da wasu, don haka ya zama kamar faɗakarwa a gare mu mu gano menene matakin da ya dace mu ɗauka kuma saboda haka yana taimakawa wajen kiyaye kyakkyawar dangantaka da wasu.
Dangane da ƙididdiga, mako guda da muke fuskanta daga awa 3 zuwa 10 na jin daɗin laifi, ana iya rage wannan ta hanyar ayyuka, amma idan ba a rage shi ba, ya zama kamar ƙararrawa wanda ba ya tashi kuma yana haifar da rashin jin daɗi, yana hana natsuwa da kwanciyar hankali, Wannan shine dalilin da ya sa aka ba da shawarar aiwatar da ayyukan da za su warware waɗannan ji, misali ba da haƙuri, kodayake wannan yana da sauƙi, ba koyaushe haka yake ba, saboda yana da muhimmanci a san yadda ake neman gafara ta hanyar nuna ƙarfi.
Akwai nau'ikan laifuka da yawa, za mu iya jin laifin wani abu da muka yi, don wani abu da muke son yi kuma ba za mu iya ba, don wani abu da muke tunanin mun yi, don ba mu taimaka wa wani ba, ko kuma kasawa da ɗabi'unmu, ko don kasancewa mafi alheri daga sauran mutane.
Downaya daga cikin mahimmancin laifi shine cewa yana nisantar da tunani mai kyauSaboda yawancin hankalinmu na iya mayar da hankali ga wannan maimakon sauran bukatun rayuwa. Kari akan haka, laifi yana haifar da sha'awar mutum a cikin wasu mutane, saboda yana iya samun sakamako na neman hukuncin kansa don sakin jin nadamar.
Laifi yana da mummunan sakamako na haifar da fitina ga mutanen da aka cutar, Saboda kasancewa kusa da su yana aiki ne a matsayin tunatarwa, haka nan kuma zaku iya komawa zuwa wuraren da aka aiwatar da ayyuka waɗanda suka sa mu ji daɗi.
Don rage jin laifi, yana da muhimmanci mu yarda da cewa mun ɗauki wani matakin da ya riga ya faru, nemi gafara da neman hanyar gujewa aikata irin wannan aikin a nan gaba. Saboda dabi'armu ta son kai, sai mu zaci cewa wasu suna fifita tunaninmu da ayyukanmu fiye da yadda suke yi, don haka bai kamata mu zama masu tsaurara ma kanmu ba.
A cikin ilimin fahimta, jiyya ga mutanen da ke da ji na rashin laifi mara dalili yawanci ya ƙunshi koya wa mutane don kawar da "tunaninsu na atomatik" da suka sa wasu wahala, kuma. Ana koya musu su gane "halayensu marasa aiki" don su gane lokacin da suke fuskantar irin waɗannan maganganun na hankali kamar ɓarna ko cika-ciki.
Yana da mahimmanci muyi koyi daga halayen mu kuma muyi amfani da laifi don koyo daga gogewa, ra'ayin shine kasancewa da ƙarancin fuskantar irin wannan aikin a gaba. Sabili da haka, laifi na iya taimaka mana gyara kuskure kuma mu koyi gyara wasu halaye don jin daɗin kanmu.
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