Iwe uri munhu anotenda here? Unokoshesa zvaunazvo here? Muchinyorwa chino ndinotaura nezve kukosha kwe koshesa zvinhu zvidiki and of kupa kutenda navo.
Usati waverenga chinyorwa ichi, ndinokukoka kuti uone vhidhiyo ipfupi iyo yaanotipa imwe yekiyi dzekufara.
Muvhidhiyo iyi vanotiudza kuti vesaenzi vakaona imwe yekiyi dzekufara. Iwe unoda kuziva kuti kiyi iyi chii? Teerera kune vhidhiyo:
[Ndinokurudzira "Fara pamusoro pematambudziko"]
Unogona kutaura izvozvo rutendo runoshanda semhasuru. Dai zuva rega rega tikatora nguva yekuziva kukosha kwezvatinazvo, manzwiro ekutenda nekuonga zvaizokura zvinoshamisa. Saizvozvo, vanhu vasinganyanyi kuonga ndivo vanowana mabhenefiti akakurisa, kana vakaita kuyedza kukoshesa zvakanyanya zvakavatenderedza. "Marapirwo akavakirwa pakutenda anonyanya kushanda kune avo vasina rutendo"anodaro Philip Watkins, purofesa wezvepfungwa paEastern Washington University.
Parizvino, kuonga muvana kuri kuita munda wekutsvaga uyo mhedzisiro yazvino inoratidza izvozvo iro basa revabereki rakakosha mukusimudzira ichi chimiro chekucherechedzwa.
Imwe yeongororo yakaitwa munzvimbo ino, uye ichazoburitswa gore rino mu Chikoro Psychology Ongororo (Zvinyorwa zveChikoro Psychology), ndiyo yakaitwa pamwe chete boka revana gumi nevaviri vepuraimari. Kwevhiki, vadzidzi ava vakatevera kosi yezvidzidzo umo mavakadzidza mazano ane chekuita nerupo uye kurima kwekutenda. Chii chinoitika mushure? Ivo 44% yevana vaive chikamu chechirongwa ichi vakasarudza kunyora tsamba dzekutenda kana vapihwa sarudzo, mushure mekuratidzwa neVabereki Mubatanidzwa. Zvisinei, yeboka rinodzora, vaingova 25% yevadzidzi vakasarudza kunyora iyi mhando yetsamba.
"Chirevo chirevo chekuti kunaka kunoitwa, kwete kudzidziswa, ndizvo zvinoitika pano"anodaro Robert Emmons, purofesa wezvepfungwa paUniversity of California. Vabereki vanofanirwa kuve mienzaniso kuvana vavo mune hunhu uhu, kana iwe uchida kugadzira mukati mawo mhasuru yekutenda. "Kunyangwe iri pfungwa yekuti havawanzofarira kunzwa, havagone kupa vana vavo chimwe chinhu chavasina ivo"anodaro Dr. Emmons.
“Zvinoita sekunge zviri pachena kuti kuumbwa uku kwevabereki kuri madikanwa; zvisinei, inoenda isingazivikanwe nevazhinji vavo "anodaro Watkins. "Ndinofunga kuti chinhu chakakosha ndechekuti isu vanhu vakuru titange kuona kuti isu hatisi kunyatsotenda ", anowedzera.
Zvinoenderana nekutsvaga, chiito chakareruka chekutenda chinounza mabhenefiti anooneka. Chidzidzo che2008, chakaburitswa mu Chikoro Psychology Ongororo, akaongorora vana 221 vegiredhi rechitanhatu nerechinomwe. Ivo vakapatsanurwa kuita mapoka maviri uye rimwe nerimwe rakapihwa basa. Boka rekutanga rakakumbirwa kunyora pasi, zuva rega rega kwevhiki mbiri, zvinhu zvishanu izvo zvavaifarira. Boka rechipiri rakakumbirwawo kuti rinyora, asi richinyora zvinhu zvishanu zvakavashungurudza. Mhedzisiro yacho yaive yekuti, mushure memavhiki maviri akapera basa, boka rekutanga rakaratidza a mamwe maitiro akanaka kuchikoro uye kugutsikana kukuru nehupenyu hwavo, zvichienzaniswa neboka raifanirwa kunyora zvichemo zvishanu.
Kunyanya kuda pfuma nekutenda
Kutenga paInternet Vanotibvumidza isu kuwana izvo zvatinoda nenzira yakapfava uye inokurumidza; izvo zvinoita kuti zviome kwatiri kuti tizive kukosha kwezvakawanda zvezvinhu izvi. “Nhasi, kana mumwe wevana vako achida dzimwe shangu, iwe enda padandemutande, sarudza saizi neruvara wova nazvo kumba mangwana. Ivo havasvike kune "kuvada ivo" kana kuisa pamberi zvimwe zvinhu, nekungodzvanya bhatani rauinaro ivo ". Anodaro Willy Walter, director wekambani Walter & Dunlop muUnited States.
Sekureva kwaJeffrey Froh, wongorora co-munyori uye purofesa wevanoshamwaridzana wezvepfungwa paHofstra University, vechidiki vanowanzo tenga online uye vanobudirira kugamuchira izvo zvavanoda vanowanzo kuratidza mazinga epamusoro ekudzvinyirira, mafungire asina kunaka uye mhedzisiro yakaipa yezvidzidzo. "Kunyanya kuda pfuma kune zvakapesana nemabatiro"anodaro Jefferey.
Iko kukosha kwezvinhu zvidiki
Sekureva kwevaongorori. zviito zvezuva nezuva zvinogona kutonyanya kukosha kupfuura kuedza kukuru. "Taura kuonga kune mumwe wako kana vana vako"anodaro Dr. Hofstra Froh. “Sei uchitenda mwanakomana wako nekuita chinhu chaanofanira kuita? Nekuti nenzira iyi unomusimbisa, iye anoisa mukati, semuenzaniso, kuti anofanira kuchenesa imba yake, uye anotanga kuzviita iye ega "anowedzera Hofstra.
Kupa kutenda, kukoshesa zvatinazvo nekuziva kukosha kwazvo, chinhu chinofanira kutanga kuitwa nevakuru.. Pamwe tine "vadzidzisi" padhuze kupfuura zvatinofunga ...
"Vana vane hushamwari hwekutenda uye kazhinji ndivo vanodzidzisa vabereki vavo nezvazvo"anodaro Emmons. Fuente