Maitiro ekuverenga maziso emunhu: tsvaga mafungiro avo pasina mazwi

Ivo vanga varipo kwemakumi mashanu emamirioni emakore uye vazhinji vedu tine vaviri, asi kunze kwekuzvipa kuona, chii chatinogona kutaura nekutarisa kumeso emumwe munhu? Vanhu vanoti maziso i "hwindo kumweya," kuti vanogona kutiudza zvakawanda nezve munhu nekungovatarisa. Sezvo isu tisingakwanise, semuenzaniso, kudzora saizi yevadzidzi vedu, nyanzvi mumitauro yemuviri dzinogona kutora yakawanda mamiriro emunhu nezvinhu zvine chekuita nemaziso. Inonakidza, handiti?

Maziso chikamu chemitauro yemuviri wedu chatisingakwanise kudzora. Pamusoro pekugadzirisa huwandu hwechiedza chakatorwa mumaonero ekuona (kuwedzera: kuwedzera saizi yemudzidzi; contraction: kuderera muhukuru hwevadzidzi), Eckhard Hess (1975) akawana kuti mwana anopora kana tichifarira munhu watiri kutaura naye kana chinhu chatiri kutarisa.

Sechiratidzo, tarisa saizi yemudzidzi weshamwari kana iwe uchitaura navo nezvechimwe chinhu chinonakidza, wobva wachinja nyaya yacho kuita chimwe chinhu chisinganakidze uye uone kuti vanobvumirana sei. Kunze kwehuropi, maziso ndiyo nhengo yakaoma kwazvo mumuviri wemunhu, uyezve inonakidza kwazvo!

Maziso akaita segirazi remweya

Maziso edu anotaura chimwe chinhu pamusoro pedu. Ivo vanotaurirana chimwe chinhu nezve mweya yedu uye hunhu. Funga nezvazvo:

• Kana iwe uchitaura kune mumwe munhu, iwe unogona kuona nemeso avo kana ivo vari kunyatsoteerera kana kwete kana kana vari kunyatsoita mune izvo zvauri kutaura.
• Kana iwe ukasangana nemumwe munhu, iwe unogona kuda kutaura kuti rudzii rwevanhu zvavari kuburikidza nemeso avo. Ivo vane hushamwari, vakasimba, vari kure, vanonetsekana, vanotyisa, vanogamuchira, vane hanya, kana vanotyisidzira?
• Paunotarisa mumaziso avo, unogona kutaura manzwiro avo. Zvinogona kusuwisa, kufara, kufara, kukuvadza, kutsamwisa, zvakakomba, kuvenga, kana kuda.
• Paunenge uri mukukurukurirana kwakadzama, iwe unogona kuona kana ivo vachiteerera, vakatsauswa, vachifarira, kana vasingafarire.
• Kana wakura maziso ako anotaurirana zvinhu zvakadzama. Vanotaurira shamwari nemhuri kana munhu mumwe chete aripo kana kuti kwete; munhu mumwe chete wavakasangana naye makore makumi maviri kana mazuva makumi maviri apfuura. Tinovatarisa mumaziso uye tinogona kuona chimwe chakasiyana.

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Kutarisana neziso

Kumisikidza kusangana uye kutaurirana nemunhu, kusangana kwakanaka kwemaziso kwakakosha mukubatana kwedu kwemazuva ese nevanhu, uye zvakare kune avo vanoda kuve vanoshanda vanotaura munzvimbo yeruzhinji:

Kuramba wakatarisana nemeso

Tarisa, usatarise. Kunyanya kutarisana kwemaziso kunogona kuita kuti anenge achigamuchira asagadzikane. Kazhinji mumasangano ekumadokero uye mune dzimwe tsika zhinji, kutarisana kwemaziso nemunhu kunotarisirwa kuve kwakajairika asi kusinganyanyo shingirira. Nguva dzose kutarisana kwemaziso kunowanzoonekwa sekutyisidzira kuedza, izvo zvinoita kuti munhu ari iye chinhu chemunhu anotaridzika anzwe zvakanyanya kudzidza uye kusagadzikana.

Kunyangwe pakati pevanhu nevasiri vanhu, kuramba uchingotarisana nemaziso dzimwe nguva hakukwanisike. New Zealand Medical Journal yakashuma kuti chimwe chikonzero nei vana vadiki vakawanda vachibatwa nekurwiswa nembwa kugara kwavo vachitarisana nemhuka dzinovaraidza, izvo zvinoita kuti dzive nesimba rakanyanya. Imbwa dzinonzwa kutyisidzirwa uye dziine hunhu hwekudzivirira.

Kunyanya kuramba uchitarisana nemaziso zvakare chiratidzo chekuti munhu ari kunyanyisa kuziva meseji dzavari kutumira. Panyaya yemunhu ari kuyedza kunyengedza mumwe munhu, vanogona kukanganisa maziso avo kuitira kuti vasazvidzivise, chiratidzo chinozivikanwa zvikuru chekureva nhema.

Kunzvenga kutarisana kwemaziso

Sei tichidzivisa kutarisa munhu? Zvingadaro nekuti tinonyara kuzvitarisa kana tiri kusatendeseka mukuedza kuvanyengedza. Nekudaro, iyo Yunivhesiti yeStirling muScotland yakaona kuti, muchidzidzo chemibvunzo-nemhinduro pakati pevana, avo vakaramba vakatarisana nemaziso vaive nemikana yekuwana mhinduro chaiyo kumubvunzo pane avo vakatarisa kure kuti vafunge mhinduro yavo.

Kutarisana nemeso, Seye mudziyo wekudyidzana, inogona kuda huwandu hunoshamisa hwekuedza kuchengetedza kana iri simba inogona kushandiswa pakuverenga, pane kuita mabasa ekuona.

Kuchema maziso

Vanhu vanofungidzirwa kuti ndiyo yega mhuka pasi pano inochema, kunyangwe paine humbowo huri kubuda hwenzou uye gorira (kuchema pamoyo). Mutsika zhinji pasi rese, kuchema kunoonekwa sekukonzerwa nechiitiko chakanyanyisa chemanzwiro. kazhinji inosanganiswa nekusuwa kana kurwadziwa, kunyangwe kazhinji zviitiko zvakanyanyisa zvekufara uye, kuburikidza nekuseka, zvinogona kutiita kuti ticheme.

Kazhinji kumanikidzwa kuchema kuti uwane kunzwirwa tsitsi kana kupusisa vamwe kunonzi "misodzi yegarwe", kuratidzwa kwengano dzemakarwe "kuchema" pakubata mhuka.

Kubwaira maziso

Pamusoro pechishuvo chedu chemuzvarirwo chekubwaira, manzwiro uye manzwiro edu kumunhu watiri kutaura naye anogona kutikonzeresa kuti tishaye musvinu mwero wedu.

Kubwaira kupfuura avhareji katanhatu kusvika kagumi paminiti kunogona kuve chiratidzo chakanaka chekuti munhu akwezva nemunhu wauri kutaura naye uye nekuda kwechikonzero ichi chinoshandiswa sechiratidzo chekutamba nemunhu.

Varume nevakadzi vanobwaira pamwero wakaenzana seumwe neumwe, 6-10 nguva paminiti munzvimbo yakajairwa. Zvakare, mhuka senge turu dzinozivikanwa kuti dzinobwaira panguva dzakasiyana neziso rega rega.

Vinya ziso

KuMadokero, isu tinoona kuchenesa senzira yekunyepedzera yekutamba nerudo, chimwe chinhu chatinoita nevanhu vatinoziva kana vatinowirirana navo. Nekudaro, pane misiyano-yetsika misiyano pane wink theme: dzimwe tsika dzekuAsia dzinofinyama nekuda kwekushandiswa kwechimiro chechimiro chechiso.

Kutungamira kweziso

Ndeipi nzira iyo mumwe munhu anotarisa pane zvavanofunga kana kunzwa inotaurira isu? Zvakanaka, pamwe ivo zvavari kuona. Chinhu chekutarisa iko iko kutungamira kwemeso emumwe munhu pavanotarisa pavanofunga. Kutarisa kuruboshwe kwavo zvinoratidza kuti ivo vari kurangarira kana kuyedza kurangarira chimwe chinhu.

Kune rimwe divi, kutarisa kuruoko rwako rwerudyi kunoratidza dzimwe pfungwa dzekugadzira, uye izvi zvinowanzo dudzirwa sechiratidzo chingangoitika chekuti mumwe munhu angave ari kunyepa mune mamwe mamiriro, ndiko kuti, kugadzira vhezheni yezviitiko zvisiri zvechokwadi chaizvo.  Ongorora: Kana munhu akaruboshwe-ruoko, zvinongedzo zvekutungamira zvinogona kudzoserwa.