Ukuzithemba sisiseko sentlalontle yomntwana kunye nesitshixo sempumelelo kubomi bakhe bokuba mdala, kuchaphazela indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha nabanye, ukunqongophala komfanekiso olungileyo ngaye kuhlala kukhokelela kwiingxaki zokuziphatha.
Ukuzithemba okusempilweni Ayithethi ukuba nekratshi, oko kuthetha ukuba ukuqonda okuyinyani kwamandla kunye nobuthathaka ngokwakho, bonwabele amandla akho kwaye usebenze kwiindawo ezinengxaki.
Ngokwenani elikhulu lophando, abantu abanokuzithemba okuphezulu, ngaphandle kokugqitha, banokuba nembono entle ngobomi kwaye ke bonwabe kunabantu abazithobayo. Ngale nto kuqikelelwa ukuba ukuzithemba okuchanekileyo kuya kukhokelela kwimpumelelo engaphezulu esikolweni nakubudlelwane boluntu kunye nokuzithemba okungazinzanga kunokukhokelela kuxinzelelo kunye nokusilela okukhulu ebomini.
Kubalulekile ukufundisa abantwana nabantu abancinci izakhono zokujongana neziganeko zobomi bemihla ngemihla, ngaphandle kokuvumela ezi zinto zichaphazele ukuzithemba kwabo, nakweli nqanaba lolutsha, bahlala bengazithembanga kwaye bengazithembi kwaphela. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba abazali nabahlohli babaxhase abantwana kwaye babafundise ukomeleza iindlela zokunyusa ukuzithemba kwabo.
Iingcebiso zokunceda ukwandisa ukuzithemba komntwana wakho kunye nokuzithemba:
1) Zama ukwenza izimvo ezilungileyo rhoqo -Abazali banempembelelo enkulu ebantwaneni babo, kufuneka beve amazwi okuvunywa ukuze bazive bexatyisiwe kwaye bethandwa, kufuneka bavuyisane nabo kwaye babonwe ngalo lonke ixesha besenza into entle.
2) Chitha ixesha nabantwanaNokuba uxakeke kakhulu, zama ukuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni nabantwana bakho, oku kuya kukunceda wakhe ubudlelwane obungcono kwaye ubenze bazive bethandwa, bexhaswa kwaye bexatyisiwe.
3) bamamele-Abantwana kufuneka bavakalise izimvo zabo, kubalulekile ukubavumela bathethe kwaye babakhathalele, babenze babone ukuba nivulelekile ukumamela izimvo neengcinga zabo.
4) Umvuzo wokuzama ngaphandle kwesiphumo- Into ebalulekileyo kukuxabisa iinzame zabantwana, nokuba baphumelele okanye bayasilela, kufuneka ubenze babone ukuba ukusebenza nzima kuhlala kuphelela ekuvuzweni.
5) Gxila kwizinto ezintle-Ukuba nethemba kudala imeko esempilweni kunye nokuzola emntwaneni, le meko iya kunika umntwana ukhuseleko olukhulu ukuze kuthi nakwiimeko ezinzima afunde ukubona icala elifanelekileyo.
6) Mncede afunde kwiimpazamo zakhe- Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba abone iimpazamo njengeendlela zokufunda, umbonise umahluko phakathi kweempazamo kunye nokusilela, ukuze bazi ukuba kusoloko kungcono ukuzama into kunokuba ungayenzi ngenxa yokoyika ukusilela, ukuphumelela, kufuneka uqale wenze iimpazamo .
7) Gcina unxibelelwano lomzimba-Wola uze ubakhuthaze abantwana bakho, kubalulekile ukubonisa uthando, oku kuya kubenza bazive bebodwa kwaye baxhaswe nguwe, ukongeza ekwenzeni ukuzithemba okukhulu.
8) Khuthaza unxibelelwano-Ngokukhuthaza unxibelelwano nengxoxo, uyabonisa ukuba uyayixabisa imbono yomntwana wakho kunye nemibono yakhe, oku kuya kubanika ukuzithemba kwaye kubakhuthaze ukuba bathethe ngokukhululekileyo.
9) Vumela umntwana wakho afunde iziphumo kuye- Awunakho ukunceda abantwana ukuba bangazenzi iimpazamo, baya kuzenza kwaye bangafunda kubo, kuba ngaloo ndlela bayakwazi ukuba izenzo zinemiphumo, kodwa singabakhuthaza kubo ukuba babenoxanduva phambi kweempazamo ezenziweyo.
Ndiyakuvuyela ngenqaku.