Xa umntu ethatha isigqibo sokufumana iqabane, bafuna ukuyenza ngexesha elifutshane, kuba ukukhangela kuthetha ukuba bafuna ukuzifumana. Ngokwesiqhelo xa umntu ekhangela iqabane kungenxa yokuba besiva isidingo sokwabelana ngobomi babo nomnye, bafuna ukuhlala amava okuthandana nokuba neqabane ... Ukuziva ukurhawuzelela esiswini sakho ngalo lonke ixesha kukhala umnxeba okanye ucinga ngalo mntu ukhethekileyo.
Akukho lula kangako. Kuyinyani ukuba kule mihla kukho iindawo ezininzi zokufumana iqabane libulela kubuchwephesha obutsha (iinethiwekhi zentlalo, usetyenziso lokufumana iqabane, njl.), Kodwa ayisiyonto ilula leyo. Imiba yentliziyo iya kuhlala idityaniswa kwaye ukufumana ukuba liqabane olilangazelelayo akusoloko kungumsebenzi oya kukwanelisa kungekudala. Njengomgaqo jikelele, abantu bayinkimbinkimbi kwaye ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu akusoloko kulula ukungena.
Okulandelayo siza kukunika iingcebiso zokufumana iqabane, ngakumbi ukuba sele ucinge malunga nokuphosa itawuli emva kwexesha elininzi ungenasiphelo ... Okokuqala kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba impumelelo yemihla yakho ayixhomekekanga komnye umntu, ukuba akunjalo kuxhomekeke kuwe nakwimbono onayo ngawe. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuba secaleni komntu onetyhefu okanye ongonwabanga, Ke ngoko, ngaphambi kokukhangela iqabane kubalulekile ukuba usebenze ngaphakathi kwakho. Kuphela kuxa uziva ulungile, iya kuba lixesha lokuba uqale ukhangele umntu okhethekileyo ozalisa intliziyo yakho.
Sukuziva uphelelwe lithemba
Ukukhawuleza ngumcebisi ongalunganga kwaye ukuphelelwa lithemba kuyothusa nabani na. Ubudlelwane bufanele ukuba bube bodwa kwaye ukuba unqwenela ukuphuma nomntu uya kubonisa kuphela ukuba awukhathali nokuba ngubani lo mntu kuba le nto uyifunayo liqabane kuzo zonke iindleko. Oku akuyi kulithanda iqabane lakho elinokubakho kuba awumenzi azive ekhethekileyo ... akukho namnye ujonga omnye umntu enqwenela ukuba neqabane.
Ukongeza, xa uphelelwe lithemba ekukhangeleni iqabane kuhlala kungenxa yokuba kukho iingxaki zokuzithemba ekufuneka zijongiwe ... Oku kuphelelwa lithemba kuyenza icace into yokuba umntu akazixabisi kwaye oku, kuhlala kubangela ukwaliwa. Abantu bajonge amaqabane, abanye bazixabisile, abafuna impumelelo kwaye bazithembile ngeziqu zabo, kuba kuphela emva koko abanokuthi banikele ngezinto ezinomdla kwesi sibini. Ukuba oku akunjalo, baya kudlulela kwenye into.
Ngale ndlela, ukuba ufuna ukufumana iqabane, qala ngokusebenzela wena, ukuzithemba kwakho, amaxabiso akho, ngendlela olibona ngayo ilizwe ... Kwaye emva koko, xa uziva wonwabile ngawe kunye nehlabathi ngeenxa zonke kuwe., unokufumana iqabane. Kodwa kuqala kufuneka ukhululeke kuwe!
Buza iingcebiso kubahlobo bakho
Buza iingcebiso kubahlobo bakho kunye nangaphandle kweqabane. Banokukunceda ubone izinto ngolunye uhlobo kwaye bakwenze uqonde ukuba ungalifumana njani iqabane, ngaphandle kokuphelelwa lithemba. Basenokukuxelela ukuba kuya kufuneka uphume ngaphezulu, mhlawumbi wenze izinto ezidibeneyo apho abanye abahlobo abangabodwa (okanye abahlobo babahlobo) nabo behamba, njl. Kodwa into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuhamba kancinci, yiba nomonde kwaye ungazenzi ngathi wenza idinga lomsebenzi ngamnye. Ukuze wazi ukuba uyamthanda umntu udinga ixesha.
Abantu abangatshatanga badibana ngcono bahlobo kuba kukho ukuqheleka kunye nentuthuzelo ebenza bazive bonwabile. Abahlobo banokuba yeyona ndebe yakho ikhethekileyo kuba bayazi ukuba ungubani kwaye unjani omnye umntu, nangona kuya kufuneka ubeke imigaqo ethile. Yenza kucace kwangaphambili ukuba indlela ohamba ngayo umhla ayibonisi kwaphela, kuba ngamanye amaxesha kuyakubakho ikhemistri kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kungabikho kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo phakathi kwenu nobabini. Ukuba umhla awuhambanga kakuhle, ayizukuba yimpazamo nakubani na.
Nxibelelana
Xa ufuna ukufumana iqabane kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubudlelwane kodwa ngaphandle kokuba njongo yakho iphambili ukumfumana. Kuba ukuba uqaphela ukuba ufuna nje ukufumana iqabane okanye ufumane usuku, uyakuqaphela inqanaba elithile lokuphelelwa lithemba kwaye njengoko besesitshilo apha ngasentla, akukho mntu uyithandayo loo nto. Ke ukuba udibana nabanye abantu, musa ukuthetha, ngumnqweno wokuba ufumane iqabane ... Kuba emva koko onke amaqabane anokubakho abaleke!
Xa uhlala nabantu, gcina isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kuba ukuba uhlala unesimo esibi okanye esingenathemba, akukho mntu uya kufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe. Ukukhupha icandelo lakho elikhuselekileyo nelincomekayo liyimfuneko ukutsala abanye kwaye kuya kufuneka kwenzeke ntoni emva koko, kuya kwenzeka! Kodwa andifuni ukunyanzela izinto. Ukuba umazi umntu onokuba liqabane elinokubakho, unokuyenza icace ukuba awuvaliwe ukuba neqabane kodwa ukuba akukho chemistry okanye ayisebenzi, ukhetha ukuba wedwa. Ngenxa yokuba uyazamkela, uyazixabisa kwaye ukhetha ukuba wedwa kwinkampani embi.
Oku kuyakwenza abanye abantu babone amandla ngaphakathi kwakho kwaye baxabise inkampani kunye nawe. Bazokubona ukuba awonelisekanga yiyo nantoni na, ukuba unemilinganiselo kwaye ukuba ukhetha ukuba kunye naloo mntu kungenxa yokuba ukhethekile hayi kuba inguye nabani na.
Umonde ... Uthando alufunwa, luza lodwa!
Kufuneka ube nolindelo lwenene xa kufikwa ekufumaneni iqabane. Gcina iinyawo zakho emhlabeni kwaye ukhumbule ukuba uthando alufunwa. Ngokwesiqhelo uthando luza njengesivunguvungu ebomini, xa ungalindelanga, xa ungalufuni. Kungenxa yokuba xa uyeka ukukhangela iqabane kulapho ekugqibeleni uzamkele ngokwakho, uyazi ukuba isizungu akufuneki sibe sibi kakhulu kwaye uyabonwabela ubomi bakho kunye nabahlobo bakho. Xa ufika kweli nqanaba, kuya kuba xa ufumana iqabane kunye neyona nto intle, iya kukumangalisa!
Kuba uthando alufunwa, luya kufika xa ungalindelanga. Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ube nezinto ezintle ebomini kuya kufuneka ubeke inyathelo elincinci, kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba ngandlela thile kwaye ulandela ingcebiso esikunika yona ngasentla, kuya kufuneka uyenze eyakho indima. Kuba ukuhlala ekhaya ubukele umabonwakude uthando alunakuza, nokuba awukhangeli. Kuba uthando, nokuba alufunwa, luyimfuneko ukuphuma uye kudibana nabantu abatsha kuba yonke into inezibalo. Okukhona udibana nabantu, kokukhona uya kuthandana nomntu.
Awufuni kufumana iqabane ukuze ubonakale ungenathemba, kodwa ungazimisela ukudibana nabantu abatsha abazokukhula ngaphakathi… kuba wonke umntu uya kongeza into kubomi bakho!