Eyona njongo ibaluleke kakhulu ebomini kukufumanisa ukuba singobani kanye kanye, ukuzifumanela ukwazi ukuhamba kakuhle ebomini. Kodwa inyani kukuba abantu abaninzi baphila ngaphandle kokwazi ngokwenene ukuba bathini umgxeki wabo wangaphakathi kwaye bahamba neengcinga ezingalunganga malunga nabo.
Ndingubani ngokwenene? Lowo ngumbuzo omele ukuwuphendula, kodwa ayingomsebenzi olula, ubuncinci ekuqaleni… ngakumbi xa ungazange uzibuze lo mbuzo ngaphambili. Kuya kufuneka uqale uziqonde ngokwakho kunokuba uzonwabise.
Ayizicingeli
Kukho abo bacinga ukuba ukuzifumana sisenzo sokuzingca kuba umntu ucinga ngesiqu sakhe kuphela, kodwa inyani kukuba yinkqubo engathandekiyo kwaye iyimfuneko ukuze ube nakho ukuphila ebomini, kokubini thina nabanye. Ukuze ube ngoyena mntu ulungileyo, Kufuneka kuqala wazi ukuba ungubani, yintoni oyixabisileyo, kunye nento onokuyinika ubomi bakho.
Luhambo lobuqu, kodwa akukho mfuneko yokuba uye naphi na kuba luhambo lwangaphakathi. Ukuya kwinto yakho efihliweyo, leyo ikulindeleyo ukuba ikunike zonke iimpendulo ozifunayo. Kuya kufuneka ususe umaleko ongakunikezeliyo kwaye ube nakho ukubona ukubonakaliswa kwakho kokwenyani. Kodwa ukuze uyenze kufuneka wakhe ngaphakathi kuwe: Kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ufuna ukuba ngubani kwaye uzalisekise ikamva lakho, nokuba kunjani na.
Kuya kufuneka uwabone amandla akho kwaye oku kuya kufuneka uhlale uvulekile kwaye usengozini kumava aphilayo kwaye uya kuphila. Ayisiyonto ekufuneka uyiphephe kwaye ungoyiki kangako. Yinto ekufuneka ujonge kuyo ukuze ukwazi ukukufumana, kuba ubufihle ixesha elide. Kodwa, Ufumana njani? Ungaphuthelwa yinto esikuxelela yona apha ngezantsi.
Fumanisa amaxabiso akho
Zininzi izinto ezenzekayo kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla kangangokuba kulula ukuba silibale ngezinto ezixabisekileyo nezinentsingiselo kuthi. Zeziphi izinto eziza kuba negalelo kumgangatho wobomi obungcono kuwe? Sonke sahlukile: mhlawumbi Uziva ngokwenene ukuba ufuna ukusondela kusapho lwakho ukuze ube nenjongo.
Okanye mhlawumbi ukhathalele umhlaba kwaye ufuna ukuzingqonge ngendalo. Nokuba yintoni, chonga okubalulekileyo kuwe kwaye ubone ukuba ungenza ntoni ukuzisebenzisa yonke imihla. Inxalenye yohambo lwethu ebomini kukuqonda loo nto, yenza njalo.
Yenza ingqiqo ngexesha lakho elidlulileyo
Ukufumanisa ukuba singoobani kwaye kutheni senza ngendlela esenza ngayo, kufuneka siyazi eyethu imbali. Ukuba nesibindi kunye nokuzimisela ukuphonononga ixesha lethu elidlulileyo linyathelo elibalulekileyo kwindlela yokuziqonda kwaye sibe yile nto sifuna ukuba yiyo.
Ayizizo izinto ezenzekileyo kuthi ezichaza ukuba singobani, kodwa sikuqonde kangakanani okwenzekileyo kuthi. Iingxaki ezingasonjululwanga zembali yethu zisazisa ngendlela esenza ngayo namhlanje. Ukuhambelana kwembali yobomi kubudlelwane obubalulekileyo ngokwempilo yengqondo. Okukhona sikuqonda okwenzekayo kuthi ebomini, kokukhona sinokwenza izigqibo ezizizo kumhla wethu ezimele ngokwethu.
Isimo mandulo nakweli xesha langoku
Isimo sengqondo kunye nemeko esikhulele kuyo inefuthe elikhulu kwindlela esiziphatha ngayo njengabantu abadala. Njengabantwana, abantu abachongi kuphela kukhuseleko lwabazali babo, Banomdla wokubandakanya kubo isimo sengqondo sokugxeka okanye sobundlobongela esijolise kubo.
Olu hlaselo lomntu luyatshabalalisa lube yinxalenye yokukhula komntwana, luseke inkqubo engaqhelekanga ephazamisana nokuphikisa ukubonakaliswa kobuntu bokwenyani.
Qonda amava abuhlungu
Las amava abuhlungu Ubomi bokuqala kwangoko buhlala buchaza indlela esizichaza ngayo nokuzikhusela. Ngamafutshane, zisikhubekisa kwaye zichaphazele indlela esiziphatha ngayo ngeendlela esingaziqapheli. Umzekelo, ukuba nomzali ongqongqo kusenokusenza sizive silumkile ngakumbi.
Singasoloko sikhula siziva sizikhusele okanye sichasa ukuzama imiceli mngeni emitsha esoyika ukugculelwa. Kulula ukubona ukuba ukuhambisa ukungaqiniseki nathi ukuya ebuntombini kunokusishukumisa njani ukuzazisa kwethu kwaye kusilinganisele kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo. Ukophula le patheni yokuziphatha, kubalulekile ukuba uyiqonde eyona nto uyiqhubayo. Kufuneka sihlale sikulungele jonga kowona mthombo wokuthanda kwethu ukuzinqanda okanye ukuzitshabalalisa.
Sukuphazamiseka kwinkqubo
Akufanele uphazanyiswe kwinkqubo yokuzifumana. Kuluntu kulula ukuba uphazamiseke, ke kubalulekile ukuba unganqamki kuwe ngokunxibelelana nabanye. Kule meko, Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba ufumane indlela yokuzifumana, unxibelelana nawe.
Unokuyeka ukuphendula ii-imeyile ngexesha elithile lobusuku okanye uyeke ukujonga iinethiwekhi zentlalo ukuze ufunde incwadi okanye ucamngce. Ukwenza nawuphi na umsebenzi okunceda ngokwenene ukuba unxibelelane nawe. Yindlela yokumisela umda kuwe nakwabanye kwaye unexesha kwaye uthumele ngokwaneleyo ukunxibelelana nawe. Ngubani owaziyo? Inokuba yeyethutyana okanye itshintshe ubudlelwane bakho netekhnoloji ngonaphakade.
Phuhlisa isazisi sakho
Ungubani kanye kanye? Umqeshwa? Umntu? Umhlobo? Ubhuti? Unokudlala iindima ezininzi ebomini bakho, kodwa sihlala sigxila kwindawo enye (njengomsebenzi) kangangokuba kunzima ukuhamba kwaye ucinge ngenye into.
Sikwafumana ubuni bethu ngokuzonwabisa, umdla wethu, kunye namandla ethu. Umsebenzi ke uyinxalenye yesazisi sakho kwaye umbuzo ngowokuba uphuma njani kuwo? Ungalibali ukuba ungaphezulu nje komsebenzi wakho ...
Khangela abantu obathandayo
Ubudlelwane bunefuthe elikhulu kwimpilo-ntle yethu, nokuba ngcono okanye ngokubi, ke kubalulekile ukuba ujonge ukuba ngaba uchitha ixesha nabantu obaxabisileyo. Oko kubandakanya ubudlelwane bezothando, ubuhlobo kunye nentsebenziswano emsebenzini. Umbutho ngamnye uza kuzisa into etafileni, kwaye kufuneka uthathe isigqibo: Ingakanani le nto intsha oyithandayo nofuna ukuyifaka ebomini bakho? Ngamanye amaxesha, ungafumanisa ukuba umhlobo wakho akasenguye umhlobo kwaye kufuneka unqumle amaqhina, ngokukhawuleza.
Gcina ingqondo evulekile
Into ekufuneka uyigcinile engqondweni kukuba "ukuzifumana" luhambo olungenalo ndawo ekuyiwa kuyo. Njengoko uhamba ngamaxesha otshintsho ebomini bakho, Uya kuqhubeka uzikhangela kwaye uya kumangaliswa yinto oyifumanayo.
Yintoni exabisekileyo kwaye inentsingiselo kwinqanaba ngalinye lobomi bakho liyakutshintsha kwaye liguquke njengoko uguquka kwaye uguquka, kwaye oko kuyindalo. Kodwa nokuba ukweliphi inqanaba okulo, eyona nto ifanelekileyo kukuzibuza: ngaba ndisebenzisa eli xesha ukuphucula umgangatho wobomi bam? Ixesha onalo bubutyebi bakho obukhulu.