Ungakuphucula njani ukuzithemba okuphantsi ngezi zivivinyo zingama-29

Abasixhenxe kwabali-10 abasetyhini banayo ukuzithemba okuphantsi. Bakholelwa ukuba abalunganga ngokwaneleyo okanye abekho kumgangatho othile wobomi, kubandakanya ukubonakala kwabo, ukusebenza kwabo esikolweni, kunye nobudlelwane nabahlobo kunye namalungu osapho.

Ngaphambi kokubona i-29 imisebenzi esinokuyenza ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwethuNdiyakumema ukuba ubone oku ividiyo yentombazana isibonisa into ekufuneka siyenze rhoqo kusasa ukuzithanda ngakumbi.

Le vidiyo imfutshane ibonakalisa uxabiso ngayo yonke le nto intombazana inayo ebomini bayo. Le vidiyo yahamba yintsholongwane kwakudala kwaye andinako ukuyifumana ngokwaneleyo:

UNOKUBA NOMDLAI-8 yokuziphatha eyonakalisayo (YOKUTSHA) ukuzithemba«

Ukuba ufuna yandisa ukuzithemba kwakho Kufuneka ucelomngeni kwaye utshintshe ezinye iinkolelo onazo ngawe. Oku kunokubonakala ngathi yinto engenakwenzeka, kodwa kukho itoni ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokukufeza.

Ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho akunzima njengoko ucinga. Onke amanyathelo, amakhulu kunye namancinci, ukuya ekuzuzeni ukuzithemba okuhle awela kwiindidi ezimbini eziphambili:

a) thintela iziphumo ezibi kwaye

b) gxininisa into elungileyo.

Yomeleza ukuzithemba kwethu Yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokufikelela kwinqanaba eliphezulu lobomi kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu kunye nokufezekisa ukuphucula esikulangazelelayo.

Ngaba uyazi ukuba ukuphumelela ebomini bakho kunxulumene ngqo nokuzithemba okusempilweni? Usenokuba uvile iklikhi: "Siyinto esiyityayo." Uninzi luphikisa ukuba "Siyile nto siyicingayo."

UNathaniel Brandon, enye yeengcali zengqondo ezizimeleyo wathi kakuhle: "Akukho xabiso lubaluleke ngakumbi ekugwebeni umntu kunokuba uqikelelo azenzayo ngaye."

Ukuba uyakwazi ukomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho, uya kuba nakho ukumelana noxinzelelo. Uya kuphumelela kwaye awuzukufuna nokuqhayisa ngayo. Ukuzithemba kwakho, nangona kunjalo, kuyahluka ngokuxhomekeke kumhla weveki. Luvakalelo lwethutyana. Imeko yendalo esingqongileyo inokudlala indima kwindlela ozibona ngayo.

Iindlela ezingama-29 zokomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho

1) Amavolontiya okanye usebenzisane nento oyichonga nayo.

IZiko loPhando laseCanada iqinisekisa ukuba ungoweqela oziva uchongwe ngalo phucula ukuzithemba kwakhoNokuba utyikitye njengevolontiya kwikhaya labahlengikazi, uncedisa emsebenzini wamavolontiya kwiRed Cross, uye kwiintlanganiso zeqela lakho, njl.

Ukuziva ulilungu loluntu apho usebenzisana khona ngovuyo kungenza umahluko omkhulu ebomini bakho.

2) Chonga iinkolelo zakho ezimbi.

Ukuba ufuna ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho, kubalulekile ukuba uchonge ukuba zeziphi iinkolelo zakho ezimbi malunga nokuba zivela phi na.

Eli nyathelo linokuba yinkqubo enzima ke kubalulekile ukuba uthathe ixesha lakho. Ungacela umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho ukuba likuncede, ubabuze ukuba bakubona njani, zeziphi ukungazithembi abazibonayo.

Inokuba luncedo Phendula olu luhlu lwemibuzo:

- Ucinga ukuba bubuphi ubuthathaka okanye ukusilela kwakho?

- Zeziphi izinto ezingalunganga ocinga ukuba abanye abantu bazicinga ngawe?

- Ungazichaza njani?

- Uqale nini ukuziva ungalunganga?

-Ungawachonga amava okanye isiganeko esinokuthi sibangele le mvakalelo?

Kuyanceda ukuqonda ezo ngcinga zimbi zihlasela iingqondo zethu singaqondanga. Ziingcinga ezizenzekelayo. Omnye umntu angangabulisi esitratweni kwaye ucinga, "Abantu abandithandi." Zazi ezi ntlobo zeengcinga ukuze ubuze kwaye uzitshintshe.

Enye indlela yokubuza ezi ngcinga kukubhala ubungqina obucelomngeni ezo nkolelo kwaye uqale ukuphonononga ezinye iinkcazo malunga nemeko. Umzekelo, ukuba ucinga ukuba abantu abakuthandi, ungaqala ukurekhoda iimeko ezibonisa ipateni eyahlukileyo:

- Umama wandibiza ngomhla wam wokuzalwa.

- Ummelwane khange andibulise kodwa ndiqaphele ukuba akabulisi mntu.

-Ndinencoko emnandi kakhulu nomntu endisebenza naye.

Yimizekelo emincinci kodwa njengoko uluhlu lwakho lukhula njengoko ixesha lihamba ungaqala ukubuza loo nkolelo ingalunganga.

3) Ukuzivocavoca okuhle.

Zininzi iindlela ezinokukunceda ukuba ucinge ngakumbi malunga nawe. Uninzi lweembono lunokuba njalo ibhlog yam 😉

Lo msebenzi ulula ngu mzekelo:

Yenza uluhlu lwezinto ezahlukeneyo ozithandayo ngawe, ezinokubandakanya:

-Umgangatho womzimba owuthanda kakhulu: umzekelo, ndinoncumo oluhle.

-Umgangatho onekratshi ngawo: umzekelo, ndiyanyamezela.

- Izenzo ezintle ozenzayo: umzekelo, ukuzithandela.

- Izakhono onazo: umzekelo, ndiyindlela kakhulu.

Thatha ixesha lakho, unokwenza uluhlu lweeveki ezininzi. Injongo yakho kukwenza uluhlu lwezinto ezingama-50 ezahlukeneyo. Beka olu luhlu kwindawo ebonakalayo yakho kwaye ujonge yonke imihla. Ukuba unomdla malunga nomsitho ozayo, njengodliwanondlebe lomsebenzi, thatha ixesha lokufunda lonke uluhlu kwaye uzibonakalise ukuba kuninzi onokukunika.

4) Misela umceli mngeni onokuwenza ngokwenene.

Qala ngento encinci kodwa iyavakala kuwe. Umzekelo, unokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uza kubhala ileta ubhalele iphepha-ndaba lakho okanye ubhalisele iiklasi zokudanisa, isayensi yekhompyuter, ...

Xelela umntu ngomceli mngeni kwaye xa sowuphumelele, Yamkela indumiso yabo 😉 Okulandelayo, misela omnye umceli mngeni kunzima ngakumbi, umzekelo, ukulungiselela isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nabantu abadala ofunda nabo okanye ukuzama ukwenza iqela labahlobo nabantu ofunda nabo abadanisayo.

5) Qiniseka.

Ukuzimela akuthethi ukuba ndlongondlongo okanye ukunxibelelana ngendlela ekrwada. Qiniseka iya kukunceda ufumane ukuzithemba kuwe.

Ukunxibelelana ngokuzithemba kubandakanya ukuma komzimba okufanelekileyo, gcwalisa imiphunga yakho ngomoya, phakamisa isilevu sakho, wolule, uzive ukhululekile. Ukuma komzimba kuya kukunceda Nxibelelana ngendlela ebambekayo.

Olu hlobo lonxibelelwano olungqongqo kufuneka lufundiswe ngendlela elawulwayo kuzo zonke izikolo ukuze konyusa ukuzithemba kwabafundi. Kukho ezininzi iincwadi zokuncedisa abathetha ngolu hlobo lonxibelelwano.

6) Hlala kude nabantu abanetyhefu.

Iingxaki zakho zokuzithemba zinokubangelwa ngabantu abasondeleyo kuwe abavuselela iinkolelo zakho ezimbi. Zibaluleke kakhulu, ziyityhefu, zivelise amandla.

Kubalulekile ukulawula ezi ntlobo zabantu ebomini bakho njengoko zinokukujongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwakho. Kuya kufuneka uthathe inyathelo ke bayayeka ukuba yityhefu kuwe. Mhlawumbi ungangqina ngakumbi (jonga ngasentla) okanye okokugqibela unciphise unxibelelwano nabo.

Nqumla isitrato ukuba kunyanzelekile ukunqanda abo bantu babi abenza ukuba ubone iimpazamo zakho. Sukuchitha amandla akho kwaba bantu bezama ukulwa neengxoxo zabo.

Zama ukunxulumana nabantu abakhuthazayo kwaye uzive ukhululekile ngayo. Abantu abakumameleyo, bakuxabisile kwaye bahlekise.

7) Khangela izikhuthazi ezikwenza uzive wonwabile ngomsebenzi wakho.

Kubalulekile ukuba uzive wonwabile ngomsebenzi wakho. Ukuba awunamsebenzi ngalo mzuzu ungakwenza imisebenzi yokuzithandela oko kuyakunceda wakhe ukuzithemba kwakho kwakhona.

8) Ziqhelanise nezinto ozithandayo.

Oku kunokuhluka ngokufunda ulwimi, ukucula, iiklasi zokupenda ...

Cinga ukuba yintoni ubuchule bakho bendalo okanye into obusoloko ufuna ukuyizama. Zama ukufumana imisebenzi engabandakanyi umgudu ogqithisileyo ukuze ukwazi ukwakha ukuzithemba kwakho kancinci kancinci.

Ukuba unako, sayina ikhosi kwinto oyithandayo kwaye ngale ndlela uyakube uthobela oko sikuvakalisileyo kwinombolo yokuqala.

Yenza umthambo rhoqo.

Umsebenzi womzimba ulungile kwimpilo yengqondo kwaye ubonakalisiwe ekuphuculeni ukuzithemba kwabantu kunye nemvo yempilo-ntle. Ukuhamba iyure e-1 ngosuku ngesantya esihle kunokuba sisiqalo esihle.

Inokuba kukuhamba okulula, nangona kungumsebenzi we-aerobic ngcono kakhulu. Ukuzilolonga kwenza ukuba ingqondo yakho ikhuphe i-endorphins engaphezulu, ii-neurotransmitters ezonyusa imeko yakho yempilo kwaye, ke, nokuzithemba kwakho.

Ukuba ingangumthambo eniwenzayo kunye, kungcono kakhulu.

10) Zama ukulala ngokwaneleyo.

Iingxaki zokulala zinokuba nefuthe elibi kubomi babantu. Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, ukurhabaxa, ukucaphuka, kunye nokuphulukana nokuzithemba. Bukela Ufumana njani ukulala okusemgangathweni.

Abanye abantu badinga ukulala iiyure ezisibhozo, abanye banele 8. Ingqondo ephumla ikhuselekile kwiingxaki zemihla ngemihla.

11) Yitya usempilweni.

Ukutya okunempilo kunefuthe elihle kwimpilo yakho yasemzimbeni nasengqondweni. Ukutya ukutya okunezondlo, ukutya ngamaxesha onke, okanye ukusela amanzi amaninzi kuya kukunceda uzive usempilweni kwaye wonwabile. Jonga ukutya okuchasene nexhala.

12) Ingqondo okanye ingqondo.

Ingqondo okanye ubuncinci yindlela ye nikela ingqalelo kumzuzu wangoku ukusebenzisa iindlela ezinje ngokucamngca, ukuphefumla, kunye neyoga.

Kubonakalisiwe ukunceda abantu ukuba bazi iingcinga zabo kunye neemvakalelo zabo ngokwenza ukuba kube lula ukuzilawula.

13) Fumana ngovuyo ukunconywa kunye nezimvo ezintle ezenziwa ngabanye abantu ngawe.

Abantu abaninzi abakholelwa ukuba bafanelwe ludumo olunjalo okanye bayeke nje kuba bengafuni ukuphoxa okanye ukudala ulindelo oluphezulu kubo.

Yale le ndlela yokuziphatha kuwe. Wamkele lonke ingxelo entle oyifumanayo kuba uyifanele loo nto.

14) Yazi ingxoxo yakho yangaphakathi.

Abathandathu kwabalishumi kulutsha olunentembeko ephantsi bathetha kakubi ngabo. Amabinzana afana nala: "Andinamsebenzi", "Andinjalo", "Lo uzakundibetha", "Abayi kuthathela ingqalelo uluvo lwam", "Ndibuthathaka" ... bayavakala kwi iingqondo zabantu abaneengxaki zokuzithemba.

Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukwazi ezi ngcinga zingalunganga kwaye uzimise emva koko ubeke endaweni yazo iingcinga ezinamandla ezinje ngala: "ndilunge kakhulu ku ...", "Akukho mntu undibethayo e ..." , "X people love me with madness", "With effort I can achieve everything I set my mind to ..."

15) Beka ulindelo olusengqiqweni.

Musa ukucinga ukuba umzekelo uza kuza kwitheko lokuzalwa kwaye uza kuba bubomi bepati ukuba ungumntu oneentloni. Oku kuyinyani kokubini ngokuba nolindelo oluphezulu kakhulu (olungenangqondo) kunye nolindelo olusezantsi kakhulu ("Ndiqinisekile ukuba ndiza kuya kwindawo ye-X kwaye wonke umntu uza kundigxeka").

Ukuba ufuna ulwazi oluthe kratya okanye ufuna uncedo oluthile, ungashiya ingxelo yakho ekupheleni kweli nqaku. kwaye ndingakuvuyela ukuzama ukukunceda.

16) Ungazami ukugqibelela.

Ukufezekiswa akukho, yi-chimera. Sukuzama ukukholisa wonke umntu kuba ayinakwenzeka. Ungazami ukuba ulunge kuyo yonke into kuba awuzukugqwesa kuyo nantoni na. Sukuzama ukuthatha lonke uxanduva kuba uyakuphela utshatyalalisiwe ngokwengqondo.

Yiba bhetyebhetye ngakumbi.

17) Chitha ixesha nomntu yonke imihla.

Umntu ngumntu ngokwentlalo ngokwendalo. Umntu onesizungu mancinci amathuba okuba afumane isidima esonelisayo sempilo yengqondo. Injongo kukuba nibe nexesha elimnandi kwaye nibelane ngamava nezimvo.

3 iimfuno eziyimfuneko:

* Ukuba abantu ohamba nabo banethemba. Kunzima ukungaziva uziva kakubi ngawe xa uhlala uziva ugxekwa okanye ujikelezwe ngabantu abakhalaza ngokungapheliyo.

* Ukuba bakuxabise njengawe.

* Qiniseka ukuba unabantu abaxhasayo abakungqongileyo ekulweni ukugxekwa kwabantu ababi.

Khumbula ukuba ungakhetha abahlobo bakho, kutheni ungakhe ukhethe abantu abacinga ukuba upholile? Uchitha ixesha elingakanani nabantu abakwenza uzive wonwabile? Fumana izithuba zokuchitha ixesha nabantu abenza uzive ubalulekile, ungalahli unxibelelwano nabo, sebenzisa i-imeyile okanye imiyalezo ukuze bazi ukuba ulapho.

18) Funda incwadi.

Iincwadi ziwindow yeminye imihlaba, abanye abalinganiswa, ezinye iimbono ezikutyebisayo njengomntu kwaye zikwenza ububone ubomi ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha incwadi ingafana nonyango lwengqondo.

19) Bhala ingxelo.

Bhala phantsi izinto ozenze kakuhle ngala mini. Oku kuya kukunceda uqaphele kwaye ukhumbule amandla akho. Ukuba kwenzeke izinto ezimbi kuwe, jonga icala elilungileyo.

20) Guqula umfanekiso ukuba kukho imfuneko.

Hlamba, uye esalon, uzithengele iimpahla ezintsha. I-makeover elula inokusebenza.

Zilungiselele yonke imihla, sebenzisa umthunzi omtsha womlomo, okanye wenze into eyahlukileyo ngeenwele zakho okanye iimpahla. Emva koko zive ukhululekile ukuzincumela esipilini ngaphambi kokuba wabelane ngoloncumo kunye nehlabathi liphela.

Khathalela ukuma komzimba wakho, gcina intloko yakho inyuse amagxa, umva, kwaye uhambe kwisitrato ngokuzithemba.

21) Qala usuku ngendlela efanelekileyo.

Ukuba uvuka uziva uxinezelekile, thatha ixesha lokuhlamba kwaye uzilungiselele. Nje ukuba ugqibile uya kuziva ungcono. Ukujonga okuhle ngaphandle kunceda uzive ulungile ngaphakathi.

22) Sukusebenzisa iziyobisi ukuze uzive ungcono.

Apha ndibandakanya icuba notywala. Ukuba ufunda ukulwa ngaphandle kokuba ubhenele kwezi zinto, ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kukhula kakhulu. Akukho zindlela zimfutshane zokujongana nobomi kwaye ezi ntlobo zezinto ekugqibeleni zithatha ixabiso elibiza kakhulu ngohlobo lokubandezeleka okukhulu.

23) Ungakhathazeki ngokuba "ugqibelele."

Ukukhangela ukugqibelela ngumgibe onokujongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwakho. Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo emehlweni abanye. Endaweni yoko, zama ukufikelela kwiinjongo.

24) Musa ukuzithelekisa nabanye.

Kutheni uzithelekisa naloo mhlobo, umhlobo okanye inkwenkwezi yaseHollywood? Olu thelekiso lunokukwenza ube lusizi. Sebenzisa aba bantu njengomthombo wenkuthazo ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho, kodwa ungazenzi ngathi ufana nabo.

25) Qala ngokuthi HAYI.

Sebenzisa impendulo HAYI. Musa ukuthi ewe kwizinto ongafuniyo ukuzenza, ngakumbi xa uziva ngathi uthathwa ithuba.

Qala ukuziqhelanisa nabantu obathembayo ukuba kunyanzelekile. Ukuba awukwazi ukuthi hayi, ubuncinci sukuthi ewe, yithi mhlawumbi.

26) Sukuzama ukutshintsha abanye.

Ukuba uzama ukutshintsha umntu, kuya kufuneka uyicingisise le meko njengoko inokuba ngumsebenzi odinisayo. Akukho mntu unokutshintsha ngaphandle kokuba efuna njalo.

Ukuba uzama kakhulu ukuzama ukutshintsha isimo somntu ngeziphumo ezingafunekiyo kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Yiba nokuqonda ukuba umntu uhamba ngexesha elinzima kodwa khumbula ukuba umsebenzi ayingowakho, ngowomnye umntu lowo.

Oyena mntu unokumtshintsha nguwe. Akululanga kodwa ukuba uyakufezekisa, ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kuhamba kuphahla.

27) Yenza uluhlu lwezinto ozifezekisileyo.

Uyakwazi ukupheka, uyathanda ukufunda iincwadi, uyazilolonga? Ezi zinto sizithatha njengento engenamsebenzi zikwazimpumelelo. Ngaba uyawahlawula amatyala akho, uyayinyamekela imfundo yabantwana bakho, ngaba ungumhlobo olungileyo?

Kulula ukulibala konke esikwenzileyo ebomini bethu.

28) Yenza uluhlu lweempawu zakho zangaphakathi ezintle.

Ngaba ulungile, unolwazelelelo, unomonde, ukrelekrele, uyonwabisa, uthembekile, ungumntu onenkathalo?

Gcina olu luhlu luncedo kwaye uphinde uluhlole xa uziva udimazekile.

29) Yiba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni.

Ungumntu olungileyo kwaye opholileyo kubo bonke abahlobo bakho, kutheni ungazenzi mkhulu kuwe?

Ngaba ungamlahla umhlobo wakho osenyongweni ukuba ebenosuku olubi? Akunjalongo noko! Ke kuthekani ukuba ubungumhlobo wakho? Ycinge. Ngaba uya kuba nobubele, uqonde ngakumbi? Kumnandi ukuba yinkxaso yakho. Yeka ukusebenza ngokuchasene nentlalo-ntle yakho kwaye ulunge kuwe.

IZIQINISEKISO

Ukuzithemba kwenziwa luluhlu lweenkolelo esinazo ngathi. Ukuba sikholelwa ekubeni asixabisekanga, kuyacaca ukuba sizakuziva singalunganga kwaye kungenzeka ukuba sikwazi ukufumana uxinzelelo.

Le ngcinga, inkolelo esinayo kuthi, yiyo eya kuthi igqibe ukuba ingaba sinobomi obonelisayo na okanye hayi. Ayinamsebenzi indlela oziphethe ngayo. Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba unolwazi, uthembekile, ulungile, ... uya kuba nokuzithemba okuphezulu kwaye ngale ndlela kunokwenzeka ukuba ubomi buzokuncumela.

Olu vavanyo luqinisekileyo lokuzithemba kufuneka lwenzeke ngokuzenzekelayo, ngokuzenzekelayo okanye ngokungazi nto.

Iithiyori zamva nje malunga nokuzithemba zibonisa ukuba iingxelo zovavanyo ezinje ngokuba "ndilungile kwintenetya" zinceda ekwakheni nasekomelezeni inkolelo elungileyo ngesiqu sakho.

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Ukuba ulithandile eli nqaku, cinga ngokwabelana ngalo nabantu abasondeleyo kuwe. Ndiyabulela kakhulu ngenkxaso yakho.