Iimpawu ezi-10 zokuqina kwengqondo eziBonisa ukuba womelele kunokuba ucinga

Abantu abaphumeleleyo ebomini abomelelanga ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasengqondweni, ukanti nganye yazo inempawu efanayo: banamandla amakhulu engqondo.

Akukho ndlela iqinisekileyo yokufumana impumelelo emsebenzini nakubomi, kodwa singayiphumeza ngendlela enonyamezelo ngakumbi ukuba siphuhlisa amandla akho ukuba sonke sithwala ngaphakathi.

Ngamnye wethu wehliswa ziziphazamiso kunye nemiceli mngeni yobomi. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abanamandla aphezulu engqondo bayakwazi ukuphakama ngokukhawuleza kunabanye. Kwaye bayenza kaninzi kwakhona… xa uninzi lwabantu sele lunikezele.

Engqondweni abantu abomeleleyo bacinga kwaye benze ngendlela eyahlukileyo.

Andicingi ukuba ukuqina kwengqondo luphawu lokuzalwa kunye nalo. Ndiyakholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba yinto esinokuyifunda sonke apha endleleni. Emva kokufunda imizekelo emininzi yabantu abaphumeleleyo, nazi iimpawu ezili-10 eziqhelekileyo zabantu abanengqondo eqinileyo:

1) Banesakhono esihle sokulibazisa ukoneliseka.

Uninzi lwabantu luyasilela ngenxa yokunikezela kwizilingo okanye bayeke imiceli mngeni ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Abantu abomeleleyo ngokwengqondo basebenza nzima kwaye bengacingi nokubuya ngenzuzo.

Isayikholojisti UWalter mischel bonisa lonto ukukwazi ukulibazisa ukoneliseka kunegalelo kwimpumelelo ebomini.

Apha sibona ugqirha wezengqondo kudliwanondlebe kunye no-Eduard Punset ngokunxulumene nezifundo zakhe:

2) Bamkela ukusikelwa umda.

Sifuna ukukholelwa ukuba sinenkululeko epheleleyo, kwaye sikholelwa ekubeni inkululeko enkulu isenza ngcono. Inyaniso ichasene. Abantu abonwabileyo bayakwamkela ukusikelwa umda. Xa befuna lonke uzuko, abantu abaphumeleleyo bakwamkela ukusilela. Xa befuna ukugqibelela, abantu abomeleleyo ngokwengqondo bamkela ukungafezeki.

3) Abaceli mvume.

Abantu abomeleleyo ngokwengqondo baziva benoxanduva ngezenzo zabo. Abaze bafune imvume kunye negunya. Bakha eyabo indlela. Bayazamkela iimpazamo zabo. Abachithi xesha bezama ukulawula izinto ezingaphaya kolawulo lwabo, njengemali nabantu. Eyona nto bayilawula kakuhle yimeko yabo yengqondo.

4) Gxila kwiziseko.

Bajolise kwezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu. Oku kuyabanceda baphelise iziphazamiso.

5) Bayazazi.

Bazichaza ukuba bangobani. Bayazazi ezabo inqaba kunye nobuthathaka, bayayazi imisebenzi yabo, bayayazi indawo yabo kwaye bayazazi iinjongo zabo.

Abantu abaziqondayo bomelele ngokwengqondo kuba Bayayazi indlela yokujongana nazo zonke iimeko nokusingqongileyo.

6) Babona izinto njengoko zinjalo.

Ngengqondo abantu abomeleleyo abaze bazenzele amabali. Oku kufuna ukuziqhelanisa. Ukuze womelele ngokwasengqondweni, kufuneka uyeke ukuphindaphinda amabali akwenza uzive ukhululekile, efihla ubunyani bakho kunye nenyani emva kwekhethini.

Bayayamkela inyani kwaye bathathe inyathelo lokulwa nabuphi na ubunzima.

7) ziyahambelana.

Abantu abomeleleyo ngokwengqondo abazalelwanga ukuba bomelele ngengqondo. Baye bafunda apha endleleni. Impumelelo ayizi ngosuku okanye ezimbini kwaye abantu abomeleleyo ngengqondo bayawaqonda amandla okuhambelana. Bathatha amanyathelo amancinci ngokuqhubekayo kwaye benze imikhwa yokuphumelela.

8) Banethemba.

Inye into ekuqhubela phambili lithemba. Ukuba akukho themba, akukho senzo kwaye akukho ziphumo. Abantu abomeleleyo ngokwengqondo bayakholelwa kwiziqu zabo.

9) Bamkela ukungaqiniseki.

Uninzi lwabantu lufuna ukuqikelela ikamva. Ukuqinisekiswa nokhuseleko zizinto eziyimfuneko ebantwini. Kodwa akukho mntu unokuqikelela ikamva ngokuchaneka kwe-100%, oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kuhlala kukho ukungaqiniseki. Abantu ababuthathaka bayabaleka bamshiya, abantu abomeleleyo ngengqondo bayamamkela.

10) Banomdla wokufunda.

Ukuthanda ukwazi kunye nomnqweno wokuqonda izinto Enye yeempawu zabantu abomelele ngokwengqondo. Funda, ulinge, ufunde, ubonakalise. Abantu abaphumeleleyo abayeki ukufunda, nokuba boyisiwe, kwaye yile nto kanye ebenza bomelele.