Ukuthobeka luphawu lomntu olusahlula kwizilwanyana ... Nangona ikwaluphawu ekufuneka lusetyenzwe rhoqo ebantwini kuba abantu abasoloko bethobekile njengoko kufanelekile. Ukuthobeka kuyafuneka ebomini kwaye ukwazi ukuhlala kakuhle eluntwini ... Ingasinceda ukuba sibe noluntu oluhlangeneyo ngakumbi.
Ukuthobeka kuya kukwenza ukhule ngokobuqu, Uya kuba ngumntu ongcono kwaye, kuya kukuvumela ukuba ubenombulelo ngakumbi. Uyakwazi ukuphila ubomi ngendlela engcono kwaye uya kuba nentliziyo ebekekileyo kunokuba ungathobekanga.
Yintoni
Ukuthobeka kuchasene nekratshi. Kubandakanya ukucinezela umnqweno wokuma ebomini okanye ukubonisa imisebenzi elungileyo eyenziwayo. Imalunga namandla amakhulu eemvakalelo ezibonelela ngesakhono sokungabonisi imisebenzi elungileyo.
Ngokwenene Uluntu lwethu lude luthobeke. Abantu bayathanda ukuqhayisa ngobutyebi babo kwaye babonise into abanayo ukuzama ukubonakala "ngaphezulu" kunomnye. Ngelixa akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuba okanye nokufumana imali, kukho into engalunganga ngokuzama ukuyigcoba ebusweni babanye, ngakumbi abo basokolayo ukuze baziphilise.
Ingxaki kukuba asinalwazi lokuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kubomi babanye abantu. Asinalo nofifi ngemizabalazo abajamelana nayo, okanye ubunzima abazama ukuboyisa… kukho nje ingcinga yokuzingca yokuba "ubomi bam bumele kwaye bungcono kunobakho". Nangona kuyinyani ukuba kukho abantu abenza kakuhle kwaye emva kokulwa okuninzi, baqhuba kakuhle ebomini ... Akulunganga ukuba baqhayise phambi kwabanye ngale nto.
Uluntu lwahlulwe lwaziindidi ezahlukeneyo ... Abantu bahlupheka ngenkohlakalo engathethekiyo kumazwe apho urhulumente engekhoyo, akakhathali, okanye akafuni kuthatha uxanduva ngokwenzekayo kubemi balo. Abantu balambile, kungekuphela nje kumazwe esithathu ehlabathi, kodwa apha, yimizuzu nje evela kumakhaya ethu. Abanalo uphahla phezu kweentloko zabo, imali kwiiakhawunti zabo, okanye ithemba ngekamva.
Abantu kufuneka basebenze ngokuzithoba kwabo, kunye novelwano ukuqonda konke oku. Nokuba awuzange ube namaxesha anzima ebomini bakho, kwaye nokuba uhlala unomnatha wokhuseleko wokukuphakamisa ngexesha lokuwa ngokweemvakalelo okanye kwezentlalo, kuthatha nje umzamo omncinci wokubonisa ukuthobeka ngakumbi ebomini.
Kodwa ayisiyonto ilungileyo le siyaziyo ukuba kufuneka sibonise ngayo… imalunga nokuba nesakhono sokwenene sokuthobeka. Ngapha koko, imeko yokuthobeka iya kukwenza ukuba uphucule kwinqanaba lomntu kodwa nelobungcali. Uya kuba nesisa ngakumbi kwaye abanye abantu baya kuba nakho ukukuxabisa ngakumbi. Uya kuba ngumntu wokwenene ngakumbi ebomini bakho nakwabanye.
Izizathu zokuthobeka ngakumbi
Sonke sinokuzithoba ngakumbi ebomini, nokuba ucinga ukuba awunamandla okwenza oko. Nangona kunjalo, ngakumbi emva kokufumana uloyiso olukhulu oluza nokusilela, ukubaluleka kokuthobeka kuya kubonakala ngakumbi. Ukuba awukaze wohluleke ukusilela, uya kuba ngomnye wabantu abambalwa emhlabeni abanokukutsho! Kodwa kuphela ukuba ubeke emngciphekweni ebomini, uya kuthi ukungcamle ukusilela ... Impumelelo yokwenene ihamba nokusilela kunye neempazamo.
Abona bantu baphumeleleyo ehlabathini basilele kuqala amatyeli amaninzi. Ukusilela yeyona ndlela iqinisekileyo yokuphumelela, kodwa kufuna ukuthobeka ukuze uphumelele. Abantu abangaphumeleliyo kwaye bayazithanda iimpazamo zokuphucula, bathobekile. Baye bangcamla uloyiso olumnandi lwempumelelo, kodwa bakwava iintlungu zokuqaqanjelwa ngamathumbu okusilela. Ukusilela kutshabalalisa i-ego kwaye kusivumela ukuba sithobeke ngakumbi. Ukuthobeka kukwazisa kufutshane nendlela yokulunga. Abantu abathobeke ngakumbi kunokwenzeka ukuba banike abo basweleyo. Banokuqonda ngakumbi imeko yabanye.
Ungathobeka njani
Ukuthobeka ngakumbi ngumcimbi wangaphakathi kwaye ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuthobeka, unokukufezekisa. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba ufuna ukubonakala uthobekile ukuze ukholise abanye kodwa enyanisweni ungumntu obawayo kwaye onekratshi, kungcono ke ukuba uqale usebenze koku kungalingani onako engqondweni yakho kwinqanaba leemvakalelo zangaphakathi. Jonga imvelaphi yobo bumnyama ngokweemvakalelo ukubanika ukukhanya okudingayo kunye nokubanakho ukuphila ngokuvisisana hayi nabanye kuphela, kodwa nesiqu sakho.
- Yazi ngakumbi into eyenzekayo. Ukwazisa ngemeko ngumsebenzi ngqondweni, kuba uyazi ngokwakho, iqela, izenzo zomntu ngamnye kunye namandla okuhlala kuwo. Kananjalo, abantu abanolwazi kwiimeko abahlala kuzo bakhomba uxinzelelo lwabo lwangaphandle njengoko bezama ukufunxa (Oko kukuthi, ukufunda) ngakumbi ngemeko abajamelana nayo.
- Beka abanye kuqala. Abantu abathobekileyo bayazi ukuzithemba kwabo. Ngenxa yoko, abaziva benesidingo sokuzibeka phambi kwabanye ukuze bababonise ukuba bazi kangakanani. Endaweni yoko, abantu abathobekileyo bayaqonda ukuba akukho mntu ubakhathaleleyo ukuba bazi kangakanani na de abo bantu bazi ukuba babakhathalele kangakanani.
- Musa ukuba nempumelelo. Kukho abo bathathwe yimvakalelo yokuphumelela. Ukuthobeka kuyayeka oku kuzikhukhumalisa kunye nomgibe wokuzibandakanya. Abantu abathobekileyo babelana ngeemvakalelo ezintle kunye nobutyebi, bahlala begxile kwaye bejolise ekuqhubekeni kwindlela yempumelelo.
- Mamela abanye. Akukho nto ikruqulayo njengokuthetha nomntu ongathathi isidima sokumamela kuwe. Xa umntu engakumameli okanye elindele nje ukuthetha, kungenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba le nto bayithethayo ibaluleke ngaphezu kwale uyithethayo. Babeka umdla wabo kuqala. Endaweni yoko, abantu abathobekileyo bayabaphulaphula abanye ngaphambi kokushwankathela incoko. Kwakhona, abantu abathobekileyo abazami kulawula incoko okanye ukuthetha ngabanye abantu.
- Bonisa uxabiso. Kwisidlo sangokuhlwa senkampani, umzekelo, ayinamsebenzi ukuba uthatha inxaxheba kwincoko eshushu nabanye okanye akunjalo, abantu abathobekileyo bathatha ixesha ukubulela kwinkonzo ngokuhoya izinto ezincinci ... Bayayazi loo mbulelo ezakutshintsha ubomi babo.