Ungazimela njani kwaye ubuphucule ubudlelwane bakho nesiqu sakho kunye nabanye

Ukuqinisekisa kubalulekile ukuba lonke unxibelelwano kufuneka lube nempumelelo kodwa akusoloko kufezekiswa. Xa kungekho kuqiniseka, unxibelelwano luyasokola kwaye unxibelelwano olunamanzi alusoloko luphunyezwa olusivumela ukuba sikwazi ukuqhagamshela nabanye abantu, kusenokubakho ukungqubana okusenza sizive ngathi unxibelelwano nabanye lonakele.

Ngamaxesha amaninzi xa unxibelelwano luthe lwaphela, ngeyayithintelwe ngokubeka nje ngakumbi. Nangona ukuzithemba kusaziwa njengokufuneka, akusoloko kulula ukuba abantu babe nakho. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ayisiyonto iphuma ngokuzalwa kunxibelelwano, kodwa endaweni yoko kufuneka usebenze kuyo ukuze ufunde ukuzithemba ngakumbi ngale ndlela.

Ukuzithemba

Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukusebenza ngokuzithemba ngakumbi, Kuqala kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni isiqinisekiso, kuba kuphela ngale ndlela oya kuthi ukwazi ukuba ujolise njani kutshintsho. Akusoloko kulula ukuchonga isimilo sokuzithemba kuba kukho umgca omncinci kakhulu phakathi kokuqina kunye nobundlongondlongo kwaye abantu abaninzi bayayiphambanisa.

Ukuqinisekisa kusekwe kubhalansi kwaye kufuna ukuthembeka kwiimfuno zakho, iimfuno kunye nezabanye. Ngokuqinisekisa, amalungelo omntu wonke athathelwa ingqalelo. Umntu ozithethelelayo uya kuzithemba kwaye bazame ukuhambisa uluvo lwabo ngokuqinileyo, ngokulungileyo kwaye kunjalo, ngovelwano. Kwelinye icala, kukho ubundlongondlongo apho umntu azama ukuphumelela ngaphandle kokuthathela ingqalelo amalungelo, umdla okanye iimfuno zabanye abantu ... iimvakalelo azithathelwa ngqalelo nazo. Umntu onolaka uyazingca kwaye akakhathali kunyathela abanye ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo.

Xabisa amalungelo akho

Ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumntu onentembelo ngakumbi, kuya kufuneka uziqonde kakuhle kwaye. Yazi ukuba ixabiso lakho libalulekile. Kuya kufuneka uxabise umntu wakho uphela, kunye namaxabiso akho, ixesha, umzamo ... wandise ukuzithemba kuwe kwaye ke uya kuba nakho ukuqonda ukuba kufanelekile ukuphathwa ngesidima nentlonipho. Uya kufunda ukukhusela amalungelo akho kwaye uwakhusele, uthembekile kwimilinganiselo yakho nakwimithetho-siseko yakho, nakwiminqweno neemfuno zakho.

Vakalisa iingcinga zakho ngokuqinileyo

Ukuchaza iingcinga zakho ngokuqinileyo akufuneki uzenze ngobundlongondlongo. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba ulinde abanye abantu ukuba bathethe le nto unayo entlokweni yakho kuba ngekhe yenzeke. Qala ngokuchonga izinto ozifunayo ngoku kwaye usete indlela yakho yokuzifezekisa.

Nje ukuba uyazi into oyifunayo, ungakhangela amagama ukuze ukwazi ukuyichaza ngokucacileyo nangokukhuselekileyo. Fumana indlela yokukwazi ukwenza izicelo ngokuzithemba ngovelwano ngaphandle kokuncama iimfuno zabanye. Ukuba ufuna abanye bakuncede, kuya kufuneka Cela izinto ngaphandle kokuba ndlongondlongo kuba emva koko uya konakalisa ubudlelwane bakho nabanye kuphela.

Awunakho ukulawula abanye

Qaphela ukuba awukwazi ukulawula abanye, nokuba ziingcinga zabo okanye zizenzo zabo. Kananjalo akufuneki wenze impazamo yokwamkela uxanduva ngendlela abantu abasabela ngayo ekuqinisekiseni kwakho. Ukuba umntu uyakucaphukisa kuba usenza izinto ngokuzithemba, sukusabela ngendlela efanayo kuye.

Khumbula ukuba ekuphela kolawulo onalo luphezu kwakho, ke ngoko kubalulekile ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuba uhlale uzolile kwaye ulinganise izinto ozithethayo okanye ozenzayo xa izinto zixabana nabanye. Kubalulekile ukuba ube ngumntu ohloniphayo kwaye ungaphuli iimfuno zabanye abantu, kuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokuthetha okanye lokwenza unothanda.

Thetha ngendlela efanelekileyo

Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngengqondo yakho, kwanaxa unengxaki ekunzima ukujongana nayo. Kodwa xa uthetha izinto kufuneka uyenze ngokwakhayo kwaye uthathele ingqalelo iingcinga zabanye. Musa ukoyika ukuzimela uze ujongane nabantu abakucela umngeni okanye bazame ukophula amalungelo akho. Ungumntu kwaye unelungelo lokuba nomsindo, kufuneka nje ulawule iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ube nembeko ngawo onke amaxesha kokubini kunye nabanye.

Yamkela ukugxekwa ngabanye

Kubalulekile ukuba uvule ukugxekwa kwabanye, kodwa kunye nokuncoma. Sukulindela rhoqo ukunconywa okanye ukugxekwa kodwa kuya kuza kuba abantu bayathanda ukuba nezwi. Ngale ndlela, kuyimfuneko ukwamkela ingxelo emibi kunye nefanelekileyo kwaye ukuba ayilunganga, yamkele ngendlela elungileyo kwaye uthobekile.

Ukuba awuvumelani nokugxekwa kuya kufuneka uyitsho kodwa ungayeki ukuba novelwano kwaye ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuzikhusela kunye nomsindo. Ngamanye amaxesha izimvo zabanye ziya kukunceda wenze utshintsho olukhulu kuwe.

Funda ukuthi "hayi"

Akusoloko kulula ukuthi "Hayi", ngakumbi xa ungakuqhelanga ukuyenza okanye ucinga ukuba abanye abantu bayayeka ukuziva izinto ezintle kuwe ... umntu okuthandayo ngokwenene uyakwamkela u "hayi" wakho Impendulo kuba unelungelo lokuthi hayi. Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuthi hayi ukuba ufuna ukuzithemba ngakumbi.

Ukuze ufunde ukuthi "hayi" kufuneka uyazi imida yakho kwaye uchonge into ovumayo ukuyamkela okanye hayi ebomini bakho. Khumbula ukuba awukwazi ukwenza yonke into okanye ukukholisa wonke umntu, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ukhusele ixesha lakho nobomi ngokuthi "hayi" xa uyidinga kwaye ujonge isisombululo esiluncedo kuye wonke umntu, hayi kwabanye kuphela.

Khumbula ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube nokuzithemba ngaphambi kokuba uthethe into ocinga ukuba kufuneka uyithathele ingqalelo iimvakalelo zomnye umntu. Nobabini ninamalungelo ekufuneka ehlonitshwe, njengokuba nifuna amalungelo enu ahlonitshwe, kufuneka nihloniphe amalungelo abanye. Xa kufuneka uthethe into ngokuzithemba, yenze ngendlela onokulawula ngayo iimvakalelo zakho kuba kuphela ngaloo ndlela Uyakwazi ukunxibelelana ngezinto ngokuqinileyo ngaphandle kokuphendula ngokweemvakalelo okulahlayo konke.