Uthando yimvakalelo edida abantu ... abazi ukuba bonwabe ngokupheleleyo okanye balusizi ngokupheleleyo. Ngapha koko, uthando lunamandla, lukwenza wonwabe okwesibini kwaye ulusizi ngalo mzuzu. Akululanga kangako ukwazi ukuba indlela oziva ngayo komnye umntu luthando lokwenene, kuba zininzi iimvakalelo ezinokuziva zinamandla kwabanye abantu. Ngapha koko, ukuba wazi njani ukuba uyathandana okanye awukho ungatshintsha kakhulu kuxhomekeke kubomi bakho.
Ukuwa eluthandweni ngamava anomdla, kodwa ayisoloko iyinto esicinga ukuba iya kuba yiyo. Njengokuba sikhula, sisebenzisa ulwazi oluninzi olusenza ukuba sicinge ukuba siyayiqonda ukuba zithini iimpawu zokuba sithandweni, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukucinga ukuba yimvakalelo ephantse yaziwa ngendlela esivakalelwa ngayo ... kodwa oku akunjalo ngenene. Ungakholelwa kwiimovie zeDisney okanye iinoveli zothando, kuba Ngokuphathelele uthando, ayivuki kusasa kwaye uyayazi.
Le mbono yokufumana "inye" inokwenza yonke inkqubo yokuthandana ithande ukubhideka kwaye ikwenze uzibuze ukuba ingaba uthandana ngokwenene okanye hayi. Lihlabathi elikhulu nelididekileyo lothando nobomi.
Unganxibelelana nomntu kwaye ukholelwe ukuba uyathandana ngalo mzuzu ungakhange ucinge ngayo nantoni na eyenye, okanye unokucinga malunga neenjongo onazo ngekamva naloo mntu ... kwaye ukuba abahambi ngendlela efanayo, awunakuzivumela ukuba uzive uthanda. Ukuba awuyazi ukuba uyathandana, kuya kufuneka uqale uqwalasele le miqondiso yothando kunye nokuncamathisela okunokukukhupha ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo.
Uziva ngathi usefini
Nangona ivakala igqithile, iyenzeka nyani. Xa uqala ukuthandana kwaye uziva uthando, ingathi uziva usefini, ngokungathi uthathe iziyobisi. Ukuwa eluthandweni kunokuvelisa uvakalelo olufana nokuphakama kuba ingqondo ikhupha ii-endorphins ezinokuthi zenzeke ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo kumjikelo wothando kwaye zikuncede ukuba ubambane phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho.
Uziva ulikhoboka lalo mntu
Uthando lutshintsha ingqondo kunye nobudlelwane bokuqala, uvuyo oluvakalayo lubonakala njengokuphakama kwemisebenzi ye-neural kwiindawo zobuchopho obucebile kwi-dopamine. Ezi ndawo zinxulunyaniswe nenkqubo yomvuzo, kwiindawo ezinxulumene nokukhangelwa kwale mivuzo. Yintoni egqithisile, indawo yobuchopho enxulunyaniswe nokucinga kakhulu iyasebenza. Njengobudlelwane buhamba buye kubambiswano lwexesha elide, ukucinga malunga neqabane kusebenze amaziko emivuzo kunye neendawo zobuchopho ezichaphazelekayo kwisincamathiselo, kodwa ukucinga kuya kuncipha ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Ujonga ifowuni yakho ngaphezu kwesiqhelo
Nangona kuyinyani ukuba abantu abaninzi sele "bethelele" kwiifowuni zabo, enyanisweni iba yinto exhaphake kakhulu. Xa uthandana kunokwenzeka ukuba uphendule ngokukhawuleza kumyalezo obhaliweyo okanye uphendule umnxeba wabo ngokukhawuleza. Uya kusoloko ufumana ixesha laloo mntu ukhethekileyo…. Kuyafana nakumajelo asekuhlaleni. Ukuba uthandana nomntu othile, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ujonge ngakumbi iinethiwekhi zonxibelelwano.
Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi uyagula
Akukho mntu uthanda ukugula, kodwa ukuthanda ngokwenene yinto yesayensi. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba intliziyo yakho iyangxama, izandla zakho ziyajuluka, isisu sakho sigcwaliswe ngamaphiko akwenza ube nesicefececo ... ungayi kwagqirha kuba usenokuba uyathandana. Ukuvuselelwa kwe-adrenaline kunye ne-norepinephrin kwenzeka nje xa sithandana. Ungaziva ngathi unomkhuhlane xa ngenene, uxakwe zezi mvakalelo zothando… akukho yeza inokwenza ukuba iimpawu zithothe. Unokuba nazo neempawu ezinjengokuphelelwa ngumdla wokutya kunye nesicaphucaphu… nje phambi kokuba umbone.
Ubonakala umhle kuba uncume ngakumbi
Oku kumnandi ngakumbi kunokubonakala ngathi uyagula ... Basenokukuxelela ukuba umhle okanye uncume ngakumbi kunokuba kufanelekile. Oku kuqhelekile kuba xa umntu esothandweni, uhlala ubona ukuba "uthando" luncumo ebusweni babo.
Ufuna ukuxelela wonke umntu
Xa uziva unyanisekile ufuna ukwabelana ngayo nabahlobo bakho kunye nosapho. Uyakhuthazeka ukuba uxelele abantu obathandayo ukuba uthandana nabani, okungqinelana nembono yokuba abantu abakwisangqa soluntu bahlala bedlala indima ebalulekileyo kwimpumelelo yobudlelwane. Ukuhambelana nendlela usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho abanokucinga ngayo malunga neqabane elinokubakho okanye iqabane luphawu oluhle. ukuba uncamathele ngakumbi nangakumbi emntwini.
Umkhumbula kakhulu
Xa wohlulwe kuloo mntu ubakhumbula ngokwenene. Uyamkhumbula kakhulu kangangokuba uyaqonda ukuba uyamthanda kwaye nendlela ubomi bakho buxhomekeke ngayo. Ukuba awazi nyani ukuba uyamthanda, kuya kufuneka ucinge ngendlela omkhumbula ngayo xa nisahlukene. Inani labantu abaphosanayo liqhele ukuhambelana nenqanaba lokuzibophelela kulwalamano.
Ingqondo yakho yokutshintsha
Ukusukela ukuba uthandile, isiqu sakho sitshintshile. Inempawu kunye neempawu ezintsha, iyantlukwano kunye nokuzithemba kukhule ngempembelelo yeqabane lakho elitsha okanye elinokubakho kwiqabane lakho. Ngamanye amagama, wena ngaphambi kokuthandana uhlukile kuwe emva kokuthandana. Mhlawumbi uziva umohluko, mhlawumbi abanye bayawuqaphela kwaye awuwuboni, kodwa izinto ezinomdla kuwe, imikhwa yakho, indlela olichitha ngayo ixesha lakho kwaye konke oku kuxhomekeke kwimpembelelo (nethemba eliqinisekileyo) leqabane elitsha .
Uziva unomona kodwa awukrokrele
Unokuziva unomona kodwa ungarhaneli ukuba iqabane lakho linokungathembeki kuyo nantoni na esehlabathini. Ukuba nenani elincinci lomona liqhelekile, alithathwa njengeliyityhefu logama lingafumani ndlela yolwalamano. Ukusuka kwimbono yokuzivelela kwezinto, umona luhlengahlengiso olunceda ubudlelwane ukuba buhlale buqinile ngokwenza amalungu abo abe novakalelo kwizisongelo ezinokubakho.
Abantu abanomona bahlala bezimisele ngakumbi kubudlelwane. kufuneka ugcine umona phantsi kolawuloIkhwele elisebenzayo okanye leemvakalelo luhlobo oluchazwe kwangaphambili ngolwalamano oluqinisekileyo njengokuxhomekeka kunye nokuthembana, kodwa abantu ababandakanyeka kwikhwele eliyityhefu elibandakanya ukuthatha amanyathelo njengokujonga umnxeba bahlala benxulunyaniswa nobudlelwane bexhala, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kunye nokungazithembi okungapheliyo .. Kwaye akukho mntu ufuna oko kulwalamano lwabo.
Wela eluthandweni kwaye wakhe uncamathiselo basisiseko esihle sobudlelwane obunempilo, Kodwa gcinani engqondweni ukuba ukuhlala kubudlelwane (okanye ukukhetha ukuqala) kuhlala kusekwe ngaphezulu kokuneliseka kunye nokuziva ulungile kubomi bomnye umntu. Ikwathetha ubukho kunye nokuthembela. Iimodeli zobudlelwane obuyimpumelelo zibonisa amandla okuhlala kubudlelwane. ifuna utyalomali kunye nokuzinikela. Ukuba uthando luthando, ukhuseleko kunye nentuthuzelo yeemvakalelo, ukuzibophelela sisigqibo esifanelekileyo esenziwa kwimeko yenkcubeko nakwintlalo yokuba kunye naloo mntu.