Ukuthandana kuyingqondo kodwa siyayifuna njengokuphefumla. Kubonakala xa singayilindelanga kuncoko nakwizimbo zomzimba, kuhlala kubudlelwane bomntu. Luhlobo lothando kwaye lusenza sizive simnandi. Kodwa yintoni uthando kwaye lubonakaliswa njani? Nantsi into esiza kuthetha ngayo ngokulandelayo.
Umsa ubonakala ngathi unomdla kwaye asicingi kakhulu malunga nendlela ekuchaphazela ngayo okanye indlela esithanda ukuyifumana ngayo okanye ukuba abanye bathanda ukuyibonisa njani kubo. Ngesi sizathu, ngamanye amaxesha iimpazamo zenziwa kuthando nakubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Umsa uhlala ushiya uphawu kuwo kwaye yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuba uwuqonde.
Iyintoni inkcazo yothando?
Ukuthandana kusinika amandla okunxibelelana nabanye abantu kwaye kuboniswe kuye nakubani na esivakalelwa sisondelelene naye ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuthandana kwenzeka koomama nootata nabantwana babo, ukuya kubahlobo, kwizibini, ukusuka kubantwana ukuya kubazali, ukusuka kootatomkhulu noomakhulu ukuya kubazukulwana, njl. Nabani na onobudlelwane beemvakalelo uya kwazi ukuba yintoni uthando ebomini babo.
Nangona ufumene amaxesha amaninzi ebomini bakho, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ungazi ukuba ungayiqonda njani ngendlela echanekileyo. Ngokufanelekileyo, awazi ukuba ungayichaza njani kuba inomdla ngakumbi kunamagama nje, yinyaniso? Luvakalelo onalo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo xa ukunye nabanye abantu. Kodwa, ngokubanzi, uthando luhlobo umntu analo komnye umntu (isilwanyana okanye umntu) okanye imeko.
Ukuthandana kunxulunyaniswa nemvakalelo nangona kukho umahluko. Uthando lujolise komnye umntu, isilwanyana okanye into kwaye inokuba sisigxina okanye ixeshana. Endaweni yoko, iimvakalelo zihlala zezexeshana. Ukuthandana kuchongwa ngeemvakalelo zothando nomsa komnye umntu.
Ngoko ke, ifuthe linobuntu obungenakoyiswa, kuba iyenzeka xa kukho unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu okanye izinto. Akuxhomekekanga kwinto enye nje kuphela njengoko kufuneka ibe nendlela eya kumacala amabini ukuze yanelise. Xa umntu enika uthando kodwa engalufumani kwakhona, iimvakalelo zihlala zimbi kwaye zilusizi.
Ubophelelo lweemvakalelo phakathi kwezinto kunye nothando
Ukuthandana kubalulekile kwimeko yomntu kwaye xa ingekho kunokubangela iingxaki zeemvakalelo ezinzima kunye nezifo zengqondo okanye ukuphazamiseka kobuntu. Ngesi sizathu, bonke abantu bafuna uthando ukusukela ekuzalweni nakubo bonke ubomi. Yindlela esivakalelwa ngayo ngathi siyinxalenye yeqela kwaye loo mvakalelo yokuba ngowethu yiyo eyahlukileyo kwaye isiphawule njengabantu.
Impembelelo inokwahluka kuba iyatshintsha ngokuxhomekeka kunxibelelwano olunalo. Umzekelo, awuyi kubonisa uthando olufanayo kutata njengakummelwane. Ibonakaliswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kuxhomekeke kwibhondi onayo naloo mntu.
Xa uthando lungabuyiswa, njengoko sibonisile ngasentla, uziva ngathi ulizothe. Ke, kuthathelwa ingqalelo oku, uthando lunokuviwa njengento elungileyo okanye engalunganga kuxhomekeka kwindlela esivakalelwa ngayo okanye siludlulisela ngayo uthando komnye umntu.
Indlela yokubonisa uthando kubantu esibakhathaleleyo
Nje ukuba wazi ukuba yintoni uthando, lixesha lokuba ukwazi ukulubonisa ngokuchanekileyo kwabo bantu sibathandayo. Uthando ludibanisa abantu kwaye luqinisa ubudlelwane bemvakalelo. Ke ngoko, Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ukuba ungayichaza njani kwaye uyifumane. Ukwenza oku, ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa, ungaphuthelwa ngamaqhosha esiya kukubonisa apha ngezantsi.
Qaphela umntu wakho othandekayo
Ukuze ubonakalise uthando emntwini kuya kufuneka ufikelele entliziyweni yakhe kwaye akukho ndlela ingcono kunokuba uyenze uthathela ingqalelo umdla kunye neenkxalabo zabo. Jonga ukuba injani imihla yabo yemihla ngemihla okanye indlela abaziva ngayo. Ngolu lwazi lufunyenwe kuqwalaselo lwakho, uya kuba nakho ukwazi ukuba yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokubonisa uthando lwakho kuye.
Musa ukuba nomkhethe
Akukho lucalucalulo, akukho kuqonda kwangaphambili. Cinga ngomnye umntu ngaphandle kokukhetha kwaye uyakuyibona ngokwahlukileyo kwindlela abanye abantu abenza ngayo. Kukuzilolonga okuyimfuneko ukuze ukwazi ukuyiqonda enye, usebenze ngovelwano kwaye ukwazi ukubonisa uthando ngendlela esempilweni.
Qonda ukuba zeziphi ezinye iimfuno
Ayisithi sonke esidinga into enye, ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba sazi ukuba iimfuno zethu azizukufana nezabanye. Ke ngoko, kufuneka usoloko uluveza uthando lwakho ngendlela eyakhayo kwaye xa omnye umntu ekulungele ukuyifumana.
Cinga ngeempawu zabo ezintle
Abantu banomkhwa ombi wokujonga kuphela izinto ezimbi zabanye abantu. Ukuzivocavoca okuhle kukuqala ukugxila kokuhle kuphela, kokulungileyo, kwinto okusizisela yona, kwinto edlulisela okuhle kwihlabathi. Yima uze ucinge ngezinto ezintle ezithunyelwa ngomnye umntu kuwe Kwaye uya kukwazi ukuluva ngokucacileyo olo thando ufuna ukumbonisa lona. Omnye umntu uya kuluva uthando njengenye into elungileyo kwaye inyanisekileyo, ke baya kuyamkela kamnandi kwaye bayasixabisa eso senzo sonxibelelwano ukuya entliziyweni yabo. Uya kuziva ngcono kwaye uya kuba kufutshane nawe ngokweemvakalelo.
Thatha ezona ndawo zibuthathaka ngokweemvakalelo zaloo mntu
Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba akukho mntu ugqibelele kwaye ke, kuyakubakho izihloko ezingavunyelwanga okanye ongathandi ukuxoxa ngazo ngezizathu ezithile. Nceda uyihloniphe. Kubalulekile ukuba uyihloniphe kuba ngamnye wethu unelungelo lokuba nale mida imiselweyo icace gca ukuze abanye bangazidluliseli ukuba asiqinisekanga okanye sizilungiselele. Ngale ndlela, vumela omnye umntu ukuba athathe isigqibo xa unakho (okanye hayi) ukuwela loo mida, kwaye uyihloniphe. Ngamanye amagama, kuya kufuneka uyihlonele indawo yokuthuthuzela yabanye ukuze bazive behlonitshwa ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ukuthandana kubalulekile ebomini babo bonke abantu, kokubini kokwakho nokwabanye. Kodwa ukuze ibe yinto entle kufuneka uyazi ukuba uyivakalisa njani, kwaye ungayifumana njani! Ngolu lwazi sikunike lonaNgokuqinisekileyo ukusukela ngoku uthando luya kudlala eyona ndima ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho.