Ukuthobeka kuyisici somuntu esihlukanisa nezilwane ... Yize futhi kuyisici okufanele sisetshenziselwe kaningi kubantu ngoba abantu abahlali bezithobile njengoba kufanele. Ukuthobeka kuyadingeka empilweni futhi sikwazi ukuhlala kahle emphakathini ... Kungasisiza ukuba nomphakathi obumbene kakhulu.
Ukuba nokuthobeka kuzokukhulisa uqobo, Uzoba ngumuntu ongcono futhi futhi, kuzokuvumela futhi ukuthi ubonge kakhulu. Uzokwazi ukuphila impilo ngendlela engcono futhi uzoba nenhliziyo enhle kakhulu kunalokho uma ungathobekile.
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Ukuthobeka kuphambene nokuzikhukhumeza. Kubandakanya ukucindezela isifiso sokugqama empilweni noma ukubukisa ngemisebenzi emihle eyenziwayo. Imayelana nokuba namandla amakhulu ngokomzwelo ahlinzeka ngamandla okungavezi imisebenzi emihle.
Empeleni umphakathi wethu ukude kakhulu. Abantu bathanda ukuziqhayisa ngengcebo yabo futhi bakhombise abanakho ngomzamo wokuvela "ngaphezulu" kunomunye. Yize ngokuqinisekile kungekho lutho olubi ngokuba noma nokuhola imali, kukhona okungahambi kahle ngokuzama ukuyigcoba ebusweni babanye, ikakhulukazi labo abasokola ngisho nokuziphilisa.
Inkinga ukuthi asazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela ezimpilweni zabanye abantu. Asazi nakancane ngezingqinamba ababhekana nazo, noma ubunzima abazama ukubunqoba… kukhona umcabango wobugovu wokuthi "impilo yami ingcono futhi kufanele ibe ngcono kuneyakho". Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi kunabantu abenza kahle nangemva kokulwa okuningi, benza kahle empilweni ... akulungile ukuthi baziqhayise phambi kwabanye ngalokhu.
Umphakathi uhlukaniswe ngezigaba ezihlukene ... Abantu bahlushwa ngesihluku esingacabangi emazweni lapho uhulumeni engekho, engenandaba, noma angafuni ukuthatha umthwalo ngokwenzeka kubantu bakhona. Abantu babulawa yindlala, hhayi kuphela emazweni omhlaba wesithathu, kodwa lapha, imizuzu nje evela emakhaya ethu. Abanalo uphahla phezu kwamakhanda abo, imali kuma-akhawunti abo, noma ithemba ngekusasa.
Abantu badinga ukusebenza ngokuzithoba kwabo, kanye nozwela ukuze baqonde konke lokhu. Noma ungakaze ubhekane nezikhathi ezinzima empilweni yakho, futhi noma ngabe ubulokhu unenetha lokuphepha lokukuphakamisa ngesikhathi sokuwa kwakho ngokomzwelo noma kwezenhlalo, kuthatha umzamo omncane ukukhombisa ukuthobeka okwengeziwe empilweni.
Kepha lokhu akuyona nje into enhle esaziyo ukuthi sidinga ukuyibukisa… kumayelana nokuba namandla okuthobeka. Eqinisweni, isici sokuthobeka sizokwenza uthuthuke ezingeni lomuntu siqu kodwa nelobungcweti. Uzoba ophanayo ngokwengeziwe futhi abanye abantu bazokwazi ukukuqonda ngokwengeziwe. Uzoba ngumuntu ongokoqobo empilweni yakho nakwabanye.
Izizathu zokuthobeka kakhudlwana
Sonke singathobeka kakhulu empilweni, noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi awunawo amandla okukwenza. Kodwa-ke, ikakhulukazi ngemuva kokubhekana nokwehlulwa okukhulu okuza nokwehluleka, ukubaluleka kokuthobeka kuyabonakala kakhulu. Uma ungakaze uhluleke ukwehluleka, uzoba ngomunye wabantu abambalwa emhlabeni abangakusho! Kepha kuphela uma ubeke impilo yakho engozini, lapho uzokunambitha ukwehluleka ... Impumelelo yangempela ihambisana nokwehluleka namaphutha.
Abantu abaphumelele kakhulu emhlabeni bahluleke okokuqala kaningi. Ukwehluleka kuyindlela eqinisekile yokuphumelela, kepha kudinga ukuthobeka ukuze ungene kukho. Abantu abahlulekayo futhi bayawazisa lawo maphutha ukuze bathuthukise, bathobekile. Baye banambitha ukunqoba okumnandi kwempumelelo, kepha baphinde bathola izinhlungu zokukhalelwa ngamathumbu. Ukwehluleka kuqeda ukuzazisa futhi kusivumela ukuthi sithobeke kakhulu. Ukuthobeka futhi kukusondeza endleleni eya ebuhleni. Abantu abathobeke kakhudlwana maningi amathuba okuthi banikeze labo abaswele. Bangakwazi ukuzwelana kangcono nosizi lwabanye.
Ungathobeka kanjani
Ukuthobeka ngokwengeziwe kuyindaba yangaphakathi futhi uma ufuna ngempela ukuthobeka, ungakuthola. Vele, uma ufuna ukubonakala uthobeke kakhudlwana ukujabulisa abanye kepha empeleni ungumuntu ohahayo noqhoshayo, ngakho-ke kungcono ukuthi uqale ngokusebenzela lokho kungalingani onakho engqondweni yakho ezingeni langaphakathi lomzwelo. Bheka imvelaphi yalobo bumnyama obungokomzwelo ukubanika ukukhanya okudingayo futhi ukwazi ukuhlala ngokuvumelana hhayi nabanye kuphela, kodwa futhi nawe.
- Qaphela ngokwengeziwe ukuthi kwenzekani. Ukuqwashisa ngesimo kungumsebenzi we ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo, ngoba uyazi wena, iqembu, izenzo zomuntu ngamunye namandla ezenhlalo akuyo. Kanjalo, abantu abazi ezimweni abaphila kuzona bakhomba ukugxila kwabo ngaphandle njengoba bezama ukuncela (okungukuthi, ukufunda) kabanzi ngesimo ababhekene naso.
- Beka abanye kuqala. Abantu abathobekile bayakwazi ukuzethemba kwabo. Ngenxa yalokhu, abazizwa benesidingo sokuzibeka phambi kwabanye ukuze babakhombise ukuthi bazi kangakanani. Esikhundleni salokho, abantu abathobekile bayabona ukuthi akekho onendaba nokuthi bazi kangakanani kuze kufike labo bantu bazi ukuthi babanakekela kangakanani.
- Musa ukuthathwa yimpumelelo. Kukhona labo abathathwa yimizwa yokuphumelela. Ukuthobeka kunqanda lokhu kuzikhukhumeza kanye nogibe lokuzitika. Abantu abathobekile babelana ngemizwa emihle nengcebo, bahlala begxile futhi bethambekele ekuqhubekeni nasendleleni yokuphumelela.
- Lalela abanye. Ayikho into ecasulayo njengokukhuluma nomuntu ongathathi isizotha sokukulalela. Lapho umuntu engakulaleli noma elinde ukukhuluma, kungenxa yokuthi ucabanga ukuthi lokho akushoyo kubaluleke ngaphezu kwalokhu okushoyo. Babeka intshisekelo yabo kweyakho kuqala. Esikhundleni salokho, abantu abathobekile balalela abanye ngenkuthalo ngaphambi kokufingqa ingxoxo. Futhi, abantu abathobekile abazami ukulawula ingxoxo noma ukukhuluma ngabanye abantu.
- Khombisa ukwazisa. Esidlweni senkampani, isibonelo, akunandaba ukuthi ubamba iqhaza engxoxweni eshubile nabanye noma cha, abantu abathobekile bathatha isikhathi sokubonga inkonzo ngokunakekela izinto ezincane ... Bayazi ukuthi ukubonga zizoguqula izimpilo zabo.