Life is too short to "take" certain things.
Everyone on some occasion we tolerate things we shouldn't. This can happen in a timely manner but it can also become something common in our day to day. You don't have to sit back, it's time to get your life back. I leave you with 15 things that you should not put up with:
1) Negative people.
Relationships with others should help you, bring you positive aspects, good emotions. No one should hurt you. Spend your time with nice people with whom you are well attuned.
2) A job you hate.
Don't settle for the first job you find if it isn't to your liking. Ideally, you should focus on what you like to do, something that connects with your interests and passions. If you succeed, your life will be pure bliss.
3) Your own negativity.
If every day you wake up in a bad mood and your life is full of conflicts, you should stop and reflect. What is going wrong? Why are you feeling like this? Life does not have to be screams, problems, anguish.
Analyze your inner language. How are your thoughts? Listen to how you talk to yourself. If what you hear is negative, make an effort to replace it with positive or more encouraging thoughts. It is the first step.
4) Lack of communication.
Do you shut up out of fear? Are you not free to communicate as you want? Why? Say the things you want to say, express yourself freely.
5) Disorganization.
This point is something more personal since I do not tolerate chaos well 😉 I do not like disorder, physical and mental.
6) The rush.
It has always been said that hurries are bad advisers, they are the germ of stress. I recommend this lecture by Carl Honore
7) The pressure to please others.
Forget about the others, do not adjust your decisions and actions to the criteria of the people. Have your own judgment and strength enough to be at peace with your way of life.
8) The fear of change.
Life flows and is changeable. Every day is different, it is an opportunity for something magical to happen, something that "clicks" on your head and sweetens your life. Your mind must be open.
9) Habits harmful to your health.
Sooner or later they will give you problems, SERIOUS problems and suffering for you and yours. Nothing brings more satisfaction than leading a healthy life.
10) Do not play.
Just because you are an adult does not mean that you can no longer play. Not everything in life is work and responsibility. Relax and play a game of tennis, cards, whatever. Do something that you like.
11) Beauty ads that make you feel bad.
The physique attracts the eyes. Personality attracts the heart. Worry about training your personality.
12) Not getting enough sleep.
A tired mind is the pasture of negative emotions. The first step to being happy is getting a good night's sleep.
13) Personal greed.
Holding onto something is a sign of vulnerability.
14) Get into debt.
Living beyond your means is a serious mistake. Try to be less material, surely there are things you don't need.
15) Dishonesty.
If you are honest / or with yourself / or tranquility will take over your mind. It is something that is priceless.
Can you think of anything else that you shouldn't put up with that I missed? Leave me your comment, help me complete this list. Thanks 😉
YELLING, INSULTS AND HURTING PHRASES.
Carl Honor.
I read your book "In Praise of Slowness" a few years ago and I liked it and I put into practice doing things calmly, which I can best.
I have not endured more than 5 minutes the talk that the author gives.
You speak too fast and I am overwhelmed.
He himself recognizes when starting it, that he has to run to promote his book.
Paradoxical?
It occurs to me that we would not have to put up with these politicians who rob us and laugh at us ...
I believe that nobody should allow others to TELL YOU WHAT TO DO.
I think that in this society it is a problem that we have, ABOVE ALL WOMEN: everyone KNOWS what we have to do, HOW, WHEN AND WITH WHOM. I think that some decisions are widely criticized in general and we have to learn (especially women) not to be influenced and decide for OURSELVES what is best for us, because ONLY WE know that ...
This has to do with your point 7 (the pressure to please others), but it is something else, it is not to GIVE IN TO SOCIAL PRESSURES. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO MARRY (if you do not want to), if you do not marry YOU ARE NOT A SINGLE / FAILED, DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN (if you do not want to), YOU DO NOT HAVE TO STAY HOME WHEN YOU HAVE A CHILD (if you do not want to) IT IS ONLY YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN (it is also your partner's)… .etc
Hello Pilar, I think your speech is already out of date ... at least here in Spain. Women have long gotten rid of those clichés. Today's woman works and is financially independent and, in many cases, it is the husband who "does the house." Times have changed ... fortunately.
Hello Daniel!. It is possible that this is your case (that the husband "does the house") and that other cases escape you, but the fact that the wife "works and is financially independent" does not imply that the responsibilities of the house and the children are shared , absolutely. We have not progressed so much, changing the mentality takes a loooong time. You just have to look: how many men reduce their working hours to take care of their children (isn't that queer?)? How many men are going to talk to their children's teachers to see how they are doing in their studies (tutoring are full of women)? How many men take their children to the doctor during working hours? How many men miss work taking care of their children because they have a high fever? How many times at school do they call the father to report a problem with their children? How many women who DO NOT REDUCE THEIR WORKING DAY WHEN THEY HAVE CHILDREN ARE CRITICIZED and they feel bad mothers (recent example: vice president of the government: Soraya Saenz, she was not criticized for that ...) ?. When you have a child (if you are a woman) they ask you if you work: who are you going to leave it with? (because it is YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AND YOURS ONLY, of course), how do you reconcile? (because CONCILIATING IS YOURS) .. men are NEVER asked that….
In any case, I did not want to take my contribution to this post on such a feminist path ... I simply wanted to say that it is okay to listen to advice, but never let them tell you what to do because what makes you happy only you know.
Thank you very much for answering me and congratulations on your blog.
How many things to put aside and enjoy life!
You should not put up with a toothache or toothache, for fear of going to the dentist
Do not do, even when you are alone, those things that are ugly to look at, such as biting your nails or picking your nose. They are things that take away your security, lower your self-esteem.
Smile at difficulties ... Like when the bull is taken off the onslaught! Thank you