8 behaviors that damage (DESTROY) self-esteem

Before seeing these 8 behaviors that damage self-esteem, I invite you to watch one of the most motivating videos that run on YouTube. This is not your typical Nike, Adidas or Cocacola commercial.

This video is about the lecture by "the ugliest woman in the world." With this derogatory phrase she was cataloged on the Internet. However, far from collapsing, he did what he tells us in this conference:

We can follow a series of tips or guidelines to increase our self-esteem. However, we can also avoid behaviors that undermine our self-esteem. This article focuses on the latter.

Next I present to you 8 behaviors that damage self-esteem and what you should avoid.

1) Procrastination.

It means delaying the things we have to do, distracting ourselves from our tasks, putting off, leaving for tomorrow what we can do today ... Our obligations accumulate and in the end the tasks remain undone.

The immediate result of this attitude is frustration, which inevitably leads to underestimation. Our self-esteem decreases. Facing our tasks with determination and enthusiasm is the best we can do. Ultimately, our self-esteem will be strengthened.

2) Self-blame.

Our frustration grows and we blame ourselves when something goes wrong. Wayne Dyer already said it in his wonderful book Your incorrect zones that guilt is one of the most incapacitating and absurd emotions that a human being can have.

3) Co-dependency: that emotion that kidnaps you.

Anyone who has had a person by their side who has absorbed their personality will know what co-dependency is. It is the person who goes out of his way for another forgetting his own needs. You are only interested in the welfare of the other person. Co-dependency can completely destroy your self-esteem.

4) Overwork: don't kill yourself working.

Because we are overloaded with tasks at work, we suffer and our families suffer.

5) Feeling intimidated.

With a simple disapproving look or a frown, we allow another person to intimidate us.

6) Feeling controlled.

One of the members of a couple or marriage tries to force the other to stay with her, when it is clear that the person wants to leave (no human being has a monopoly on another person).

7) Self-destructive behaviors: drugs? no, thanks; I'm not stupid

Drugs have occurred to me as an example because they are the most used to cover up those negative feelings that grip us. What many people do not know is that these behaviors only aggravate the problems.

8) Do not stop people who look down on us.

Many times we swallow things that should not be allowed. Disrespect must be nipped in the bud. With this specific case, our self-esteem can be seriously damaged.