Children from a young age need to have obligations at home, they need to know that they are part of a family nucleus and that everyone has responsibilities and obligations that must be fulfilled for the good of all. Of course, They will not be the same obligations in a 5 year old child as in a 15 year old child.
Similarly, for children to do household responsibilities willingly, it is important that the motivation for doing them is taken into account. They need to be motivated to do them.
What you must not forget
It is also important that parents do not demand more than what their children are capable of. They must be given tasks that they are capable of carrying out according to their age and maturational development. If you demand that a child do a task that he is not capable of, you do not teach him to do it and worst of all, you reproach him for not doing it well ... he will not want to do a task of that type or similar again. Why? Because you don't want to feel humiliated and You will have developed an insecurity towards tasks and a feeling of inadequacy that will undermine your self-esteem.
For this reason, you must first teach children to do the tasks, according to their age, and once you have guided them in carrying out that task in question, and only when you see that they are capable of doing it themselves, then you can allow to do it autonomously, gradually allowing them to be able to do it and to feel the job well done. Of course, they will not do the tasks the same as you would, but that does not have to be an impediment for them to collaborate in the housework, since to learn, you always have to make mistakes first. These mistakes, guided with affection and love, They will make them learn to do things better for the next time.
Don't make the mistake of doing homework for your children when things aren't going well. Because then they will feel that they are not capable of doing it themselves. When he does not know how to do something, what he needs is your guidance and above all, your patience.
Tasks and obligations that children can do
Depending on how old your children are, they will be able to perform some tasks or others, but it is necessary that they feel them as obligations at home from the motivation and good pleasure of doing things well done. Thus, children can contribute to the proper functioning of the family.
Children need to feel useful, to know that they are capable of doing things well for themselves. In fact, all people have to feel that they are helping and making a contribution. When a person participates and does a job or gives their time and talents, they create a sense of affiliation and belonging that is the glue that binds a group together. Since the urbanization of society, children have been asked to do less and less for the family ... and as is normal, if they do not do things and are not motivated to do them, they simply do not do them.
In contrast, children who have responsibilities to the family develop a sense of their importance, belonging, and self-esteem grows as their competencies grow. So… it is worthwhile for them to also take part in household responsibilities and tasks, even if they are opposed to it at first.
Next we are going to give you a small list with some ideas so that your children can start collaborating with the housework from now on. The tasks that you see will accumulate as they age.
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- Pick up the toys that they are not playing with and put them in their place.
- Store books and magazines on shelves of your height.
- Clean tables with a cloth without toxic products
- Place plates and cutlery on the table.
- Clean the stains that they cause when they drop something on the table or floor.
- Simple decisions: choosing a breakfast between two options
- Hygiene with help: brushing teeth, hands, brushing hair, etc.
- Take off clothes with help, and put them in their place.
- Throw things away.
- Save products in their place.
4-year-olds
- Help set the table.
- Put things in their place.
- Help in the purchase to put the products in the cart.
- Help in the garden with simple tasks.
- Feed pets.
- Help make the beds.
- Help fill the dishwasher.
- Make easy sandwiches.
- Make simple desserts.
- Play autonomously with little adult supervision, but without removing supervision entirely.
- Store your things in the right place.
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- Make a simple breakfast and clean up the mess.
- Pour your own drink.
- Prepare the table.
- Help with cooking tasks with adult supervision.
- Make the bed.
- Clean your bedroom with help.
- Clean the sink with supervision
- Separate the clean clothes from the ones I know. Should. to wash.
- Fold the clothes and put them away.
- Use the telephone to make calls to family members.
- Make purchases with supervision.
- Take out the trash with supervision.
- Feed your pets and clean up what they get dirty.
7 year old child
- Take care of your bicycle if you have one.
- Write down messages to communicate to parents.
- Run simple errands.
- Water the lawn.
- Take care of your things.
- Wash the dog or cat.
- Take the grocery bags.
- Get up with an alarm clock and dress autonomously to go to school.
- Learn the values of courtesy.
- Ability to carry money to pay for small purchases, such as bread.
- Autonomous bathroom hygiene.
From the age of 7, children begin to be autonomous, so you can teach them more household tasks as they integrate their ability to do them at home. When they feel useful it will be easier for them to continue learning. But remember that above all they need your patience and all your love to be able to start doing it. Housework should be included in daily routines.