Don't consider yourself a Grinch for hating Christmas. Although you see so many lights and colors everywhere and thousands of people buying gifts every weekend, in reality there are more and more people who hate these holidays, so if you are one of them, you are not the only one who happens. While it is true that you have the right to hate him, hating is never a good thing so it can make you feel too bad.
The ideal is to understand why Christmas depresses you so that after accepting it, know what to do to solve it and even if it is still not funny, that at least you can live with these days surrounded by cheerful and happy people and that you do not feel displaced emotionally too much of all this.
Hatred of christmas
Christmas is supposed to be a date of celebration and gifts, where you eat and people get together to spend some time at the table together laughing, although during the year ... they can't stand each other. The reality is that there are many people who cannot stand Christmas, there may be many reasons why they can hate it, does it happen to you too? You still feel identified ...
- You do not like falsehood in people. It is possible that the family reunions that you have to meet or the company dinners… you realize how there are people who seem to get along but in reality they cannot stand each other on a day-to-day basis. You don't like being fake and if you dislike someone, you dislike him now and at Christmas.
- You are not a believer. Perhaps you are not a believer and it bothers you that people celebrate a holiday that is religious even though many of them are not believers either. Actually, this is only based on respect and tolerance, that you do not like this festive season does not mean that you cannot enjoy it ...
- Superficial parties. Following the two previous points, you may feel that they are too superficial and materialistic parties. It seems that what really matters is only comparing gifts and eating and drinking without measure. In reality this does not have to be the case, you can buy details only from the people you love and not neglect your health ... even if others eat what they want.
- You have financial problems. When the holidays arrive, you will probably see how everyone begins to spend ruthlessly, even the money they do not have ... If you have financial problems that prevent you from celebrating Christmas as you really would like to do it, this may make you hate Christmas even temporarily, that is, until you can have sufficient financial solvency.
- They are parties that make you sad. Maybe you look back in your life and you are nostalgic for the holidays that you celebrated with your family and that you can no longer celebrate. Perhaps not all the people are at the table anymore because some of them have passed away and you are still grieving. Seeing families together when you miss your loved ones can be a difficult drink to make. This sadness in the memory can make you feel bad, but remember that new people may also come to the family who can make your illusion recover, even if it is part of it.
- You feel like they force you. You may feel as though you are being forced to celebrate Christmas, but if you feel compelled you may turn it down for it. If you celebrate Christmas it is because you want to do it and not because you are forced to do so. It is better to do it willingly to avoid defensiveness.
What can you do
If every time Christmas comes you have a bad time, you don't have to feel the Grinch ... you can respect that others celebrate them even if you don't. Living in harmony with other people is the secret to be well on these dates. Even if you listen to Christmas carols and you do not like them or the lights that you see in all the streets annoy you ... remember that it is not necessary that you lock yourself in your house for more than a month to 'disappear' from Christmas.
On these dates if you do not like Christmas it is important that you avoid the shopping centers and shopping streets of your city. If you have to make purchases it is better that you do it in time to avoid the typical crowds of these dates.
If you do not want to celebrate Christmas you will have to tell your family and friends that they do not have you for those parties and celebrations because you do not want to attend them. Do not repeat it because they only make you uncomfortable. If they really love you, they will understand and do their best so that you don't feel uncomfortable. Although if you think that you do not want to celebrate Christmas because you feel sad or even if you have some depression, then the best idea is that you go to a professional to help you understand and accept your emotions. You will be able to look for the necessary solutions to have a better balance and emotional health.
You can also think about doing other things on these dates, such as taking a trip to change places and discover better places. When you travel and discover new places, you may feel better on these dates even if they are also on Christmas dates. Discovering new places and meeting other people may make you understand their perspectives on Christmas.
A rural getaway, make plans with your friends and family even if they are not Christmas, do movie or series marathons ... read books that you like. There are many things you can do on these dates even if they have nothing to do with Christmas. Do things in your free time that fill you up and that satisfy you, that occupy your time and that make you feel good. In this way, it will be more than likely that you can enjoy these dates even if the lights are full of Christmas light, color and music.
Do you already know how you will celebrate these holidays even if it is your way?