Did you know that the mind and language can be reprogrammed? This is done by the Neuro-Linguistic Programming, to act on the body and mind of human beings so that the maximum potential can be reached in order to achieve objectives in the areas of business, relationships, emotions, sports, etc. This is why it is known as the science of human excellence.
It has been on the rise in recent times, perhaps due to the interest in human behavior, NLPFor its acronym, it is not formed based on theories, it is totally practical, it visualizes behavior in all its aspects and tries to explain how our brain works and the patterns we have, this allows us to know ourselves in depth.
By knowing our brain mechanisms and the responses we emit to the circumstances we can, with some techniques, turn around what we don't like or what we can improve ourselvess. We learn the proper use of communication in order to increase effectiveness in interpersonal relationships.
Since its inception, neurolinguistic programming has been used to treat a wide range of issues, including: anxiety, phobias, post traumatic stress, panic, communication problems, borderline personality, attention deficit hyperactivity, depression, addiction, obsessions and compulsions.
This discipline is broken down as follows:
Programming: for cybernetics and mathematics, since its developers Richard Bandler (computer scientist and psychotherapist) and John Grinder (university professor of linguistics) ensure that we are programmed by our memories and learning, as well as by the experiences and beliefs that generate patterns in behavior.
Neuro: by neurology, which studies the mind and neural networks, because we can deactivate these programs and activate other more positive ones.
Linguistics: It allows to determine in depth who the person is through the use of language.
How we can better understand other people
There are often difficulties in communication, this happens for various reasons, but especially it is about not being on the same line as the other person. To understand it better: each one has different ways of perceiving information, although we use all the senses to assimilate it, there is always one that will prevail over the other, this is called representational systems:
Visual: there is a group of people who pay special attention to visual details where memories take the form of images. These people deserve the eye contact of their interlocutor. They tend to speak quickly and usually do so quickly jumping off topic. (Circular system).
Auditory: they are those people who better remember words and sounds, seeing their own language influenced by auditory terms. (Linear system).
Kinesthetic: This is where the group enters where their memories are focused on sensations, be it bodily, gustatory, olfactory, tactile, for them physical contact is essential. (Network system).
Now, If we want to better understand other people, it is essential that we understand which representational system they are using, so we can adapt to your language so that everything has greater fluency.
Use Neuro-Linguistic Programming to improve your relationships
What if he tells you that everything you want in your life is in your hands? Well, it is so, using Neuro-Linguistic Programming tools we can achieve significant changes in our lives, this is closely linked to the Law of Attraction.
There are a series of exercises that can be carried out both to achieve personal goals such as those that have to do with an interpersonal relationship. Let's start with ourselves first. One of the exercises to perform is called: Click Pattern, its main function is to replace a negative mental image with a positive one.
Think for a moment about that aspect of your life in which you are not productive or what discourages you, for example going to classes or studying, look at the image that comes to your brain, laziness and disdain invades you, you probably Imagine getting poor test results.
Now in your mind change the image and think about what you would like to feel when going to classes or studying, for example imagine yourself in the emotion of attending, greeting colleagues and friends, visualize yourself in that pleasant environment and also think about what you feel when receive a good grade, make that mental representation the best you can. Being happy with your representation, take a pause and return to the original image, that of discouragement, visualize a point in the middle or in one of its corners, that point represents the positive image, now as fast as you can with a sound of snapping expands the point until it fills the entire negative image and is replaced with the positive image.
Do this exercise until it is no longer any effort, but don't forget to replace the negative image by placing the dot and expanding it until it fills the entire image. This exercise will significantly change the image you had every time you have to go to class or study. You can also do it with another aspect of your life in which you have a problem. In this way you reprogram what your mind tells you about that particular.
On the other hand, if our goal is to generate good harmony and connection during communication with another person, we can use the rapport, which deals with a link between two or more, to the tune that is warranted so that changes can occur in any of the parts. It is then, a tool that based on the use of aspects such as: gestures and body postures, the tone and speed of the voice, breathing, representational systems, among others, can achieve an influence on the other person. This is done in two steps: calibrating and pacing.
The first thing is to calibrate ourselves bodily, leveling our breathing to that of the other person, taking into account their gestures and postures; In addition, as we mentioned before, we must determine what representational system it uses.
When we have that information, it is time to pace, this must be done with subtlety, observing the movements and behaviors of the person. Using his own representational system and urging him to adapt, without his knowing it, to us. To verify if it is working we can make a slight movement to see if the other person does it too.
Thus, with these and other alternatives offered by the Neurolinguistic Programming or NLP We can improve certain aspects of our life, even if they are already established in our consciousness. Remember that the mind can be reprogrammed.