Assertiveness is necessary in the society in which we live, because only and thanks to it will we be able to communicate effectively with others. In reality, assertiveness is considered the most efficient communication and behavior style. It allows us to regulate thoughts and emotions and to build and maintain healthier relationships with ourselves and with others. Assertive rights are also a necessity in people's communication.
General assertiveness, mentality and social environment that facilitate the achievement of personal and professional goals. It has many advantages and that is why it is one of the skills that people most want to develop to improve their lifestyle and interpersonal relationships. It is a path towards independence of thought, authenticity and being able to live in a harmonious society.
Assertiveness in people
Assertiveness refers to the complex ability to think, react emotionally and act in a non-passive but at the same time non-aggressive way. An assertive person will be able to express their opinions in an open way, to also express their feelings, their needs and their desires in a way that shows respect for their own rights but also for the rights of others.
All of this is known as a multidimensional concept and in order to reap the benefits of this style of communication and behavior, the person also needs to have a multidimensional approach. Thought patterns (rational thinking), understanding the patterns of one's own emotions and how to project these internal emotions into observable behaviors should be addressed, such as verbal and non-verbal communication and general management of social relationships.
Activate assertiveness
To improve assertiveness, people have to activate it and this means being able to practice it the more times, the better. Assertiveness should be your main style of communication and behavior because it will have enough capacity to shape your thoughts as well as your attitude and that of others. In order to be assertive it is essential to know what are your assertive rights, so you can claim them towards yourself and respect them towards others.
Today there are many lists of assertive rights, some longer than others. This happens because there is no defined list in terms of assertive rights, in many cases it is common sense that guides it. All the lists are subjective statements, but what really makes them valid in the personal development environment are those that derive from the basic principles of assertiveness: finding legitimate freedom, authenticity and well-being.
All this, while showing respect for the other, without harming other beings or the environment. Basic and assertive human rights bear some resemblance, but focus on the latter in communication contexts within personal interactions.
Why is it good to be assertive?
When you are assertive you will feel freer to be able to express yourself and manifest your thoughts and desires through words, deeds or deeds. You will always feel like this: 'This is me, this is what I think, want and feel'.
In addition, you will be able to communicate with people of any type or level, whether they are family, friends, strangers, company managers, professionals, etc. Communication will always be an open, direct, sincere and adequate door.
People who have an assertive style will have a better active orientation in life, they will know what they want, when they want it and how they want it. They will try to get things done and what they have in mind just happens. They will have a responsible way of acting, accepting their own limitations, understanding that they do not always have to win. They are aware that their behavior is good and that their way of acting will always be protected by good reasons, acts and behaviors. They will feel strong because they are able to express themselves with sincerity without the need to hurt others or get into conflict unnecessarily.
28 Assertive Rights
- Right to respect and dignity
- Right to have feelings, opinions and to be able to express them without violating the dignity of others
- Right to decide on oneself
- Right to decide whether the behavior one has is in accordance with the expectations and wishes of others, or in accordance with our own interests, provided that those of others are not violated
- Right to ask, knowing that the other has the right to say no
- Right to say no when you don't want to say yes
- Right to feel and express emotions without hurting others
- Right to reject the requests of others without feeling guilty
- Rights to set our own priorities and make our own decisions
- Right to change your mind
- Right to decide on what you want to do with your own body, money or time
- Right to make mistakes and be responsible for each of them
- Right to think before acting or making a decision
- Right not to have to respond immediately or never to respond
- Right to ask for information or ask when something is not understood as often as necessary
- Right to enjoy your own achievements and to have them recognized, to be proud of yourself
- Right to feel comfortable with yourself regardless of results or achievements (whether better or worse)
- Right to get what you pay for (if, for example, a meal is not good or is in poor condition, the amount will be returned or it will be exchanged for another in good condition)
- Right to choose not to behave firmly if it is what you really feel
- Right to feel negative emotions as long as others are not hurt
- Right to feel positive emotions and enjoy them
- Right to solitude if it is what you want
- Right not to have to justify yourself to others
- Right to do anything, as long as the rights of other people are not violated
- Right and obligation to feel happy and to be happy
- Right to say 'I don't know' or 'I don't understand'
- Right not to be perfect
- Right to be independent
Assertiveness is an emotional intelligence skill that can be worked on and developed. If you want to change the way you communicate with others and thus improve your current life, you can. Don't be afraid to seek professional care to get it and put your assertive rights into practice.