The human being, regardless of the way you think he was placed on the planet, either by the process of evolution, creation or even that he was placed here by aliens, the truth is that in his first plan was the fact implicit that it colonized the earth, in such a way that it would rise above the beasts and create the civilization that we now know. However, as we acquired more knowledge and our mind was increasing in knowledge, too it was increasing in disorders.
On many occasions, the individualistic and independent way of life of man has been disrupted by external agents that attract his attention and impair the proper functioning of the mind.
Dependence was, and continues to be, one of these disorders, since it leads man to think that he cannot exist or get ahead unless have an element in your life that is of the utmost importance to him. In many cases, this leads him to isolate himself from society or not work as he used to, and in both cases a deterioration in the faculties of the subject is generated.
This dependency can occur in various areas of the individual's life, and generally does not end well. In this post we will discuss the various dependencies that upset us and we will see some tips that can be useful to deal with them.
First, a definition of dependency
Dependence is easily defined as a relationship of origin or connection between a person and an object or person, and how, thanks to the relationship between these things and the subject, the latter is unable to fend for himself, since everything he can doing and thinking is having with you that object or person on which you depend.
Dependence disorder can target a number of factors, and not everyone reacts to these in the same way.. There may be the so-called political dependence, drug dependence, which is one of the most common, codependency, drug dependence, which is closely related to drug dependence but this focuses on prescription drugs.
There can also be a dependency on a particular object, which makes the affected person unable to function properly without having said object in their environment. This dependence is usually linked to superstition, and can be seen in people who are not able to work without some object that deserves a certain magic.
This example can be seen in athletes who cannot perform on the field unless they wear their "lucky charm".
It is difficult to deal with the issue of dependency because the way of approaching it changes radically depending on what generates said dependency. In addition, the subject may be more or less sensitive when approaching it depending again on what the object to which he feels attached is.
Dependency can be divided into several subtypes
A dependent person can be dependent on various things that alter his behavior and govern his system, so that he can only think of that object. Despite this, it can be treated in various ways.
If what you want is to start treatment for a particular dependency, it is important to know which one we are talking about in order to take the appropriate treatment to eliminate it from our system.
Drug addiction
Drug dependence is known as addiction to one or more substances, as well as its compulsive and indiscriminate use without paying any attention to the disadvantages and problems that this entails, which can be severe.
Physical dependence on a drug in order to function is not necessary or sufficient to classify it as an addiction; and there are substances that, when they do not cause addiction, are still capable of developing physical dependence in the individual.
If we take an example, the cocaine withdrawal It does not cause symptoms such as vomiting or chills, but it does lead to depressive moods. This means that although cocaine may not cause physical dependence it does cause addiction, and not taking it leaves you in a state of need for it.
Drug abuse can lead to a state of physical dependence on drugs, and the same can happen with prescription drugs or pain relievers. Although it is unusual in people who do not have a history of addictions.
Drug addiction
In this part you will also find various drugs, but in this case we are referring more to prescription drugs. In particular, those that most generate addiction cases are those that regulate or inhibit pain, as well as antidepressants, as they put the patient in a state similar to some drugs, but without being so strong. This is precisely why they are considered legal and are given with a prescription.
Even so, there are medications, such as those that regulate blood pressure and sugar levels that do generate physical dependence, and if they are stopped taking there are symptoms in the body that do not allow the patient to lead his life as before.
Political dependency
This in particular refers to the nullification or limitation of the will that exists in a community leader to make important and fundamental decisions.
This type of dependency can arise for purely political reasons (such as retaliation by a power), or also for economic reasons. However, this is a type of dependency because it leaves a political entity at the mercy of another greater if it wishes to continue existing. For example, a mayor or governor may be coerced into acting in a certain way by a larger government body if it wishes to remain as it is.
Codependency
It is defined as the cycle of behavior patterns, as well as dysfunctional thoughts that cause pain and that are constantly repeated based on an addictive relationship with a toxic person.
It generally occurs in the sentimental field, because there are people who base a large part of who they are in their love relationships, and no matter how toxic they are, the victim will not let them go because they feel that they will be much worse off losing that relationship.
This behavior can be learned, because a few decades ago, and still in the present, many women lived in toxic relationships, but were unable to end them due to the dogmas of the time, because they would feel like a failure if they ended the relationship.
Today, although there is less domestic violence thanks to many groups that have committed to helping with these issues, there are still people who suffer from a dependency on people with whom they are in a relationship. At the same time, this dependence can occur not only towards the partner, but also towards a family member or a friend who we know is bad for us, but from whom we cannot separate for fear of what they do, or because we think that it will be worse. without him.
Abstinence syndrome
Once a person has decided to stop what they feel dependent on or what has caused them addiction, the body may develop a withdrawal syndrome, which occurs with various changes in the body that can affect that person's life.
There are those who feel chills, vomiting, hallucinations, allergic reactions and even epileptic seizures from having left something to which they were addicted. In the case of codependency, depression, fear of the future and suicidal wishes can occur.
It is true that, initially, the individual takes the product in question because it causes him some pleasure or because he likes the reaction he feels with it. However, if at one point you try to quit and the syndrome occurs, it will continue to consume you now out of fear to introduce himself again. In this way, the addictive agent wins the fight again for a while, until the person decides to quit completely.
What to do to stop being dependent
Acknowledge that there is a problem
The first step to solve any type of problem with dependency is to recognize its existence. Once it has been recognized that there is a problem that needs to be addressed. It will be easier to work on your solution. In the case of a dependency it is never entirely easy, but once you have taken the first step, you can really work on finding a satisfactory solution.
Make a list of the things that harm you
Once we have become aware of the problem, it will be easier to evaluate the bad things that we have achieved thanks to it. Before, when you still did not think there was a problem, it was much more complicated to think that they had factors that harmed the dependent. However, now that you can see it in another light, you can begin to see the havoc that dependency had wreaked on your life.
Strengthen self-esteem and work with your family and friends
In many cases, dependence occurs because the individual has problems that they want to solve, or that do not allow them to feel completely well, and in order to find an escape, they succumb to some drug, drug or person who feels that they can help them. Once he has made up his mind to overcome the addiction, it is good for the patient to count on his family and friends to help him not to relapse.
Learn to be without "it"
Once you feel that you have been able to handle dependency, it is important that you learn to be without that which has hurt you in the first place. In many places where addictions, alcoholism and multiple dependencies can be treated, the acquisition of a new hobby or hobby is often suggested as a suggestion to replace and keep the mind away from negative thoughts.
For example, many times those who have recovered from an addiction are told that they exercise, Play a sport or find a hobby to replace a bad behavior with a positive one. This is an important part of learning to quit.
Dependence, once recognized, the work that must be done to leave it is not so difficult.
But it is important to know that this great undertaking cannot be carried out in complete solitude. To stop a bad behavior, and more if it is an addiction or a dependency, it is important to contact professionals that can help you depending on which agent is causing that dependency. Most can be treated and, although it is an arduous process, it is more than possible to find a cure. You just have to look for it.