All people seek happiness in order to live a full and satisfying life, although it seems that it is not always so easy to achieve it. Many people suffer from depression or chronic sadness and they believe that happiness is an impossible utopia to achieve. But in these cases, it is only the condition of your mind that makes you believe this, in reality happiness is within everyone's reach, you just have to know how to balance the balance.
What is happiness for you
When someone asks you; What is happiness for you? It is possible that you resoples without knowing well what you should answer, because you may not know exactly what happiness is or how you should feel when you really feel happy. You may think that happiness is finding yourself every day, achieving dreams, enjoying life with the people you love, having a state of balance where your life flows in harmony ... or maybe you have no idea.
Happiness is a subjective state, but what is it that makes us more or less happy? The ability you have to be happy, half of this ability is determined by genetics. This the experts call: 'Your nodal point of happiness'. People can improve or worsen the innate tendency to be more or less happy, but As with body weight, you will always tend to return to your midpoint.
Although half of the ability to be happy depends on genetics, there is a 10% that depends on the circumstances you are living today. But what about the remaining 40%? What This 40% depends on your daily behavior, your focus and vital judgment, how you live and feel your life and how you judge yourself and others. A lot of happiness is in your hands!
What elements tip your balance of happiness
There are some concrete elements that can tip your balance of happiness one way or the other. Let's look at some interesting facts in response to some questions. Before reading the answer to the question, we advise you to first think about your own answer and then check the reality that the experts say.
- Who are happier: women or men? Women tend to be a little happier than men but they also tend to be more depressed, on average they are more vulnerable to good and bad emotions. 1 in 5 women will have depression in their lifetime.
- Who are happier: married or single? It is not a question of marital status, people who are well with their partners will be happier. Although there are studies that show that it is better to be alone than in bad company.
- Is money important to be happy? Money influences happiness below the survival level, that is, if you do not have your basic needs covered. But above the level of survival, anyone can be happy with more or less money. Although income grows, that does not mean that happiness increases.
- Is health necessary to be happy? Health weighs in the balance of happiness. People are good at overcoming obstacles; to people who amputate an arm regain their happiness in a time of three years.
- Is work important to be happy? Work is an important element in the balance of happiness, if you have work your level of happiness rises because your level of autonomy and self-esteem increases. Working close to home will make you even happier.
- Would you be happier if you won the lottery? When you win the lottery you feel a great adrenaline rush, but after a few months you return to the previous levels of happiness. This is called 'hedonistic habituation', humans get used to both positive and negative changes.
How to increase happiness
As you well know, in order to be happy you have a lot to do, since 40% to achieve happiness is in your hands. Do you want to know how you can maximize your happiness? To do so, do not miss the next point.
Distinguish between intentional and circumstantial changes
Circumstantial changes They are, for example, a raise in salary, buying you a car or buying a house. They are material changes that you get used to right away.
Intentional changes describe the effort you make to achieve a goal or start a new activity. That is, it has to do with seeking a long-term goal.
People who deliberately create purposeful changes in their lives maintain a 'rush' of happiness that brings all the changes in general for a longer time. So the recommendation of the experts to maintain happiness is that you combine circumstantial changes with intentional changes. These changes should have an impact on your life in the medium and long term.
Find your own happiness
Happiness, therefore, will not be the same for two people since we are all different with our own idiosyncrasies and different needs. Each person must modulate their own happiness without looking at the happiness of the one next to them. To be happy you have to look within yourself and you know what your own needs are to keep the balance of happiness well balanced.
In addition to taking your needs into account, you must also keep your preferences in mind. With the scales of your happiness in front of you, you just have to think about what will give you greater emotional well-being.
To achieve this, you must evaluate how your life is currently and if there is something that requires your attention or make some changes in order to improve your quality of life and your emotional health. Think that we only have one life to live and that every day of our lives is worth being happy with. Think about your needs and your preferences ... and get going to achieve it!
Source: Redes (Elsa Punset)
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