How to accept yourself? Learn to do it

Unfortunately there are many people (if not the majority) who do not accept as they are; which brings negative consequences such as insecurity, fear of failure, anxiety, among others. Accepting yourself is not as difficult as it seems, just practice the tips and recommendations that we will show you throughout this post.

What does it mean to accept yourself?

Surely you have ever heard the phrase "love yourself before loving someone else", which is quite right; Well, if we are not able to accept and love ourselves, we will not be able to do it with other people either (or rather, it would not make sense to do so).

Accept yourself it consists of knowing both our abilities and our shortcomings; love and accept us as we are. In this way we can live in harmony with ourselves. Therefore, the first step a person needs to take to accept themselves is to get to know themselves.

A person who does not accept himself usually has problems with self-esteem, is an insecure individual, suffers from guilt in many cases and suffer from problems or disorders such as depression or anxiety.

Self-acceptance is not really easy to carry out, but if it is our goal, with the help of the recommendations that we will show you later, you will surely achieve it. The tasks that we must undertake to achieve this change that will improve our self-esteem.

• Coping with feelings.
• Accept us physically.
• Living with those negative aspects that cannot be modified.
• Fight our fears.

The benefits of self-acceptance They are varied, mainly it will make us feel safer; but they will also give us the quality of enjoying our life more fully, seeing its aspects realistically and also avoiding wasting energy in hiding our defects.

When does the person reject himself?

As we mentioned at the beginning, most people tend to reject themselves and not accept themselves as they are. It is easy to know if a person is doing it, since they are often judged, reproached, and scold each other. This results in an excessive load of daily negativity that will influence the development of our daily life.

The most common symptoms of self rejection are:

• Insecurity in a wide variety of situations.
• Frequent self-punishment.
• Feeling of constant fear or dread.
• Pressure and tension.
• Social anxiety
• Among others.

The cause of this attitude of rejection usually comes from childhood, although it can also be acquired in sensitive stages such as adolescence. In the first case, some adults tend to "demean" children with negative comments; While in adolescence, young people may suffer from bullying or some similar type of harassment.

To avoid rejection, we have to learn to accept yourself; so we should notice how we express ourselves and speak, see our behaviors in different situations, among other tasks that we will explain in detail below.

Recommendations to be able to accept oneself

You know the acceptance levels

La self acceptance it can be divided into three different levels; which range from the inside to the outside of self-esteem. You must start from the first level to be able to change the following; since if you skip some of them, surely some of your problems will continue to persist.

• The first level is characterized by being the deepest and that we sometimes overlook; being the one that can cause more problems in our life. The idea is to accept that we are human, we have desires, emotions, the right to live and express ourselves, be happy and have a life in which we feel comfortable with who we are and what we have.
• For its part, the second level consists of knowing and accepting our personality; because it is one that characterizes us from other human beings with emotions, thoughts, behaviors and actions different from those of others. Do not regret how you are (unless you hurt or affect others, obviously).
• Finally, it consists of supporting yourself (instead of criticizing or judging yourself), that is, being your own friend. This means that you will understand and analyze why you think, feel or behave in a way, understand when you do it in a negative way and in turn, help you improve.

Be more optimistic

It is important to know that we must avoid demanding more of ourselves than we can be or do. It is certainly what we do to improve, but sometimes that obsession can have negative consequences; because everything that is done in excess is usually harmful.

Know yourself, accept yourself and look optimistically at your future plans. Once you you accept yourself, it is much easier to be positive with the change you want to make for the better.

Show everyone who you are

Stop thinking that only by hiding or repressing yourself will you keep friends, work, among others. You have to accept yourself and show people how you really are; Only in that way will you be able to get people who support you and love you as you are.

Put your fears aside

Although our fears protect us in various situations, they also bind us. It is important to fight against those fears that do not allow us to move forward, such as the fear of failure, which once it has been overcome, is when we really manage to develop as people.

Know your limits

If you know yourself, you will know that you have certain limits than different aspects. Having this knowledge will allow you to fight with greater strength. Sometimes we think that we can change things that we have no control over or we set goals that are really ambitious and unlikely; which demotivates and makes us feel bad about ourselves.

Accepting oneself does not mean that we must conform to what we are or have and that nothing can change it; but rather to accept the situation in which we currently find ourselves, which will allow us to analyze each factor that we want to change in our lives for the better.