They are very festive dreaded Like the first anniversaries after the death of a loved one, we cannot help but think about the chair that has been left empty and that the meeting is not going to be the same. Result painful y difficult to cope.
We are surely in the process of DUEL and it will also influence our state of mind if we are in more advanced stages of this process or if we are in the early stages.
I would like you to see the video that I have prepared for this topic where I give you several PRACTICAL ADVICE that can help you:
I will address the subject of Dueling in the future so that I do not extend myself now with this subject. But it is important that we keep in mind that it is completely normal that we feel sad and that we wish that the parties pass by and either on January 7 when everything returns to normal.
Christmas has been «sold»As a time of year where We "must" be content and feel happy, spend money and eat. It is a cultural tradition that has many nuances since society is driven by the advertising pressures and commercial interests behind this whole system.
It seems like an obligation to have to celebrate these holidays, be happy and buy gifts.
This is one of the times of the year when most people ask psychological help since the reality of life, the vast majority of the time and in the majority of the population does not fit with the social pressures that impose us, in this case, to be very happy and have money to spend on meals, luxuries and gifts, to be pressured to get together at lunches and dinners with relatives with whom the relationship is null or that there is no good relationship to offer an image of happy and united family.
It generates great tensions and much internal discomfort in most people and it is typical that in these family gatherings "sparks fly" since dirty laundry from the past ends up coming to light.
Returning to the case, if there has recently been the death of a loved one with whom you enjoyed meeting during these dates, you will be interested in the 2 RECOMMENDATIONS that I propose in the video so that you can face Christmas in the best possible way:
1- Give permission for express how you feel and think what do you fancy do during these holidays.
Keep in mind that it is NOT MANDATORY that you celebrate them if you do not want to. You can do other things during these days.
2- Do not isolate yourself, surround yourself with loved ones that are in your life.
Share the feelings you have, whatever they are without forcing yourself, and give yourself permission for new things to appear these days, maybe they may surprise you.
Greetings,
Laura Royo, Psychologist
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