How to know if you are in love

girl in love smelling flowers

Love is a feeling that confuses people ... they do not know if they are absolutely happy or absolutely sad. In fact, love has that power, it makes you happy for a second and sad for the moment. It is not so easy to know if what you feel for another person is really love, since there are many emotions that can be felt intense towards other people. In fact, how to know if you are in love or not can change a lot depending on how your life is.

Falling in love is a fascinating experience, but it is not always what we think it will be. As we grow up, we consume a lot of information that makes us think that we understand what the signs of being in love are, it is common to think that it is a feeling that is almost innately known in how much it feels ... but this is not really the case. Don't believe in Disney movies or romance novels, because As for love, it is not waking up in the morning and knowing it.

This idea of ​​finding "the one" can make the whole process of falling in love very confusing and make you wonder if you are really in love or not. It is a big and confused world of love and life.

You can interact with a person and believe that you are in love at that moment without thinking about anything else, or you may think about the goals you have for the future with that person ... and if they are not going the same way, you may not allow yourself to feel love. If you do not know if you are in love, you will have to start considering these signs of love and attachment that can get you out of doubt.

girl in love hugging

You feel like you are on a cloud

Although it sounds extreme, it actually happens. When you fall in love for the first time and feel love, it is as if you feel on a cloud, as if you have taken drugs. Falling in love can produce a sensation similar to getting high because the brain releases endorphins that can occur at various times in the love cycle and helps you bond between you and your partner.

You feel addicted to that person

Love changes the brain and in initial relationships, the euphoria that is felt appears as heightened neural activity in areas of the brain rich in dopamine. These areas linked to the reward system, in areas associated with the search for these rewards. What's more, the area of ​​the brain linked to obsessive thinking becomes active. As a relationship moves toward a long-term partnership, thinking about the partner activates the reward centers and areas of the brain involved in attachment, but the thinking becomes less obsessive over time.

You check your phone more than usual

Although it is true that many people are already quite "hooked" to their phones, in reality it becomes something much more common. When you are in love you are likely to respond quickly to a text message or answer their call much more quickly. You will always find time for that special person…. The same goes for social media. If you are in love with someone, it is common for you to look at social networks more.

woman in love on the street

Sometimes it seems like you're sick

Nobody likes to be sick, but being in love really is a scientific phenomenon. If you notice that your heart is racing, your hands become sweaty, your stomach fills with fluttering movements that make you nauseous ... do not go to the doctor because you may be falling in love. The stimulation of adrenaline and norepinephrine just happens when we are in love. You can feel like you have the flu when really, you are overwhelmed with those loving feelings… there is no medicine that can make the symptoms subside. You may also experience symptoms such as loss of appetite and a feeling of nausea… just before you see him.

You look prettier because you smile more

This is more pleasant than looking like you're sick ... They may tell you that you are prettier or more smiling than necessary. This is quite common because when someone is in love, you can always see that "love" smile on their face.

You want to tell everyone

When you really feel love you want to share it with all your friends or family. You are motivated to tell your loved ones who you are dating, which is consistent with the idea that people in the social circle often play an important role in the success of a relationship. Being in tune with how your family and friends may think about that potential partner or partner is a good sign. that you are more and more attached to the person.

You miss him so much

When you are separated from that special someone you really miss them. You miss him so much that you realize that you love him and how your lives have become interdependent. If you don't really know if you love him, you will have to reflect on how much you miss him when you are apart. The number of people who miss each other tends to correspond with the degree of commitment to the relationship.

couple in love at home

Your sense of self changes

Since you've fallen in love, your sense of self has changed. It has new traits and characteristics, diversity and self-concept have grown through the influence of your new partner or potential partner. In other words, the you before falling in love is different from the you after falling in love. Maybe you feel the difference, maybe others notice it and you don't, but the things that interest you, your habits, how you spend your time and all this is subject to the influence (with the positive hope) of a new romantic partner.

You feel jealous but you don't suspect

You may feel jealous but do not suspect that your partner can be unfaithful for anything in the world. Having a minimum amount of jealousy is normal, it is not considered toxic as long as it does not get in the way of the relationship. From an evolutionary perspective, jealousy is an adaptation that helps relationships stay intact by making their members sensitive to potential threats.

People who are jealous tend to be more committed to relationships. you need to keep jealousy under controlReactive or emotional jealousy is the type predicted by positive relationship factors like dependency and trust, but people who engage in toxic jealousy that include taking actions like checking the phone are often linked to having relationship anxiety, low self-esteem, and chronic insecurity ... And nobody wants that for their relationship.

Fall in love and build a addiction they are a wonderful foundation for a healthy relationship, But keep in mind that staying in a relationship (or actually choosing to start one) is often based on more than just satisfaction and feeling good in someone else's life. It also means presence and trust. Models of successful relationships show the staying power of relationships. it requires mutual investment and commitment. If love is passion, security and emotional comfort, commitment is the necessary decision that is made in cultural and social contexts to be with that person.


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