An irascible person tends to get angry easily, they are people who live in constant irritation. They are those who scream, bang on the table or have adult tantrums at the slightest ... Being by their side is like being next to a "minefield", you don't know where to go because you don't know where it's going to explode. They can become toxic people and normally, no one wants to be around an irascible person because they drain energy quickly from those around them.
An irascible person has communication problems because it seems that they only do it yelling, they lose the roles quickly and if you oppose them, they quickly become defensive and if they can, they attack you. But in the face of all this aggressiveness, behind that emotional concrete wall you will always find a weak being that uses anger and anger to protect yourself from others, because you don't want to be hurt.
Rage takes over you
In irascible people, anger easily takes hold of them. They are like a pressure cooker that explode without even realizing it, they allow themselves to be carried away by the intense emotions that cause them to suffer. Normally when an irascible person "explodes", then he feels bad because he would like to be more assertive but does not know how to achieve it. He knows that they are not the best ways he uses to communicate with others, but the little control of intense emotions seems to make him act like that. The good news is that we can all be able to improve behavior and also, mood.
When anger is controlled and intense emotions are not allowed to control your behavior, then you are showing emotional maturity. You will learn that anger and rage is not a good option to get what you want. It does not consist of giving up anger or burying it ... Anger, anger, rage ... are intense but necessary emotions, we must accept them in order to Knowing what they tell us at all times, we must understand them in order to move forward.
It is important to understand why those emotions are poisoning you and causing you to act this way, because only once you understand can you begin to control yourself rather than allow yourself to be controlled.
Why is irascible
Why does a person become an irascible person? People who use anger as a form of communication only try to defend themselves from the world because they believe it will hurt them. They use emotional intensity in a toxic way and harm themselves and others. It is a wolf that growls with a bloody paw.
A person who is irascible on a regular basis usually occurs because he feels excessive anguish since childhood. They do not know how to control or adapt to changes and use anger as a defense mechanism.
They can also use anger as a method of responding to negative emotions because they do not understand negative emotions. It is necessary to have good emotional intelligence from childhood to prevent this from happening.
Anger is not something that appears overnight. When a person feels anger continuously it is usually a cumulative problem, that is, misdirected emotions for a long time accumulate. Many frustrations or unchannelled negative feelings make people irascible ... they create beings who suffer a lot but who try to hide it with toxic behavior. As if that were not enough, they are people who distrust others and can have paranoid behavior in front of everyone. They think that everything is a threat that wants to harm them. For an irascible person, everyone is bad, everyone wants to hurt him and everyone wants to humiliate him and laugh at him. Can you imagine living every day in continuous stress thinking that anyone wants to hurt you at any time? It must be tiring!
You can overcome irascibility
Yes, you can overcome irascibility and that anger does not always dominate you. It doesn't mean you should forget anger or bury it forever, far from it! But you do have to understand that emotion to know what it tells you at all times and that in this way, you know how to behave and what to do to be better.
It is important to know that people who are usually always angry are more likely to have health problems such as heart disease, strokes, respiratory problems, more diseases due to low defenses ... Because anger makes you sick.
It is necessary to know how to overcome this anger so that your anger is not paid by those who least deserve it, such as when you get angry with your boss and end up yelling at your children. Displaced anger it can do a lot of emotional damage to the people you love the most, and that less they deserve such unpleasant treatment.
When you feel angry you must understand and accept the emotion and look for the cause that causes it. Once you know it, you will have to take breaths to channel that intense emotion so that it does not block your thoughts. Thus, along with the breaths, you can begin to relax both your body and your mind. You will think better and you will be able to act in a more appropriate way without hurting yourself or others.
Work on empathy and assertiveness to improve your communication with others. In this way you will learn to displace anger and aggressiveness towards a bark so that your communication is an effective tool in your interpersonal relationships.
If you know a person who tends to have irritable behavior on a regular basis, don't play their game of toxic emotions and negative behaviors. Respect their opinions although if their behavior is usually aggressive not only on a verbal level, but also on a physical level, then you will have to take the appropriate and necessary measures to protect yourself.
At all times, be respectful to that person and listen to what they have to say. When he feels that he is accepted for who he is and that you really value what he says or does, it is very likely that you can lessen his negative feelings. Deep down, he is a being who only wants to be accepted and to feel the affection of his loved ones ... But you must learn to channel your most intense emotions.