Why you feel hostile and what to do about it

Hostility is linked to anger, aggressiveness, anger, or stress. When this emotion is felt constantly, people can be at higher risk for heart disease and high blood pressure. Stress is known to cause physical and emotional problems as well, and hostility is an added problem. In addition, they are also related to gastrointestinal problems.

A high level of anger and hostility in life is a strong predictor of illness and even death. People need to understand what it is and how it affects them both in their daily lives and their health in order to remedy it as soon as possible.

Hostility and anger in your life

Anger in the vast majority of cases is inappropriate and counterproductive. You will have to determine for yourself if your anger is excessive and if it is affecting you and your relationships. You will have to be honest with yourself because you know better than anyone if the anger and hostility you feel towards others… is real.

Having these emotions as predominant has effects on social life as it can be very destructive on a verbal level or in body language. Excessive verbal or physical hostility is a problem for many.

Why do you feel hostility and anger

They are usually an attempt to control the actions or behaviors of others to satisfy your own needs or wants. It is the result of frustration when you do not get what you want or expect from others. Anger accompanied by hostility is often a control tactic.

What is behind the anger and hostility? Afraid. The most common fear is not feeling control towards others or towards situations. These feelings are an attempt to control one's world and to try to control the actions of others. To reduce the fear and anxiety you feel about it, it is better to behave correctly with others, without anger and with politeness. In this way you will feel that you are under control, that you control the situation better and therefore, your emotional state will improve almost automatically.

When hostility is felt, it is indirectly 'lashed out' through 'passive-aggressive' behavior. With this type of behavior you try to punish others for reasons that are usually meaningless. Then anger always appears behind, it is activated because control is lost and it 'explodes' on someone with a verbal or physical attack.

If you feel hostile, you will have continuous expressions of anger that can damage your health and the relationships you have with others. Angry words and actions can never be recovered from a relationship with another person as the effects can last for years.

Characteristics of hostility

Hostility is a sustained and lasting attitude in the hostile person's attitude. Cynicism, distrust of others or denigration of others is used. You feel resentment and violence in certain situations, although sometimes it is shown in a subtle way with a passive-aggressive behavior.

When you feel hostility, you have negative beliefs towards other people in a toxic way that generates resentment and even paranoid thoughts. In conclusion, a person who feels hostile is that he has negative feelings towards others, and when he has a hostile behavior he tends to have a passive-aggressive and sometimes confrontational attitude.

What to do and how to improve your life

If you recognize that you live with this emotion within you, it is likely that you are not living happily. Do not feel unnecessary anger and think about all that you can achieve by working within yourself. To achieve this, follow these keys.

Acknowledge the fear that drives your hostility

Fear is the engine that drives you to have your hostile behavior and feel hostility. Then you will have to ask yourself: 'Am I scared right now? Am I anxious because I think I'm not in control?'

Acknowledge your need for control as it can be unrealistic and actually counterproductive for you. If you have anxiety in a situation, you will have to try harder. Learn to control your fear and your hostile feelings will diminish.

Allow yourself to be afraid

Once you have identified the fear behind your hostility, you must allow yourself to feel it. Doing this will allow you to understand the emotion and move away from you little by little. Stop wasting your energy and use it to enjoy life. When you identify your fears, you can reduce stress.

Work on your self-esteem

Everyone experiences anger and hostility at times, and this is totally normal. However, the problem is when you feel this way the vast majority of the time. A positive and healthy self-esteem is vital to resisting the use of anger. Self-esteem improves when you observe the good that is within you and not the bad, defective or inappropriate.

Let go of the feelings that bother you

Letting go of the feelings that bother you once you have reflected on them will help you free yourself from that excessive anger that you have within you. By "letting go", you really gain control over yourself! When you realize the excessive anger within you, you can start talking to yourself in a different way.

Get ready for the change

Being prepared means thinking about your behavior and thoughts. Write or make a mental note when you feel excessive anger, hostility or express it externally towards others or internally towards yourself. Become aware of the circumstances that trigger your reaction and prepare yourself mentally for future occurrences next time.

Rehearse how you will respond when your hostility begins to manifest itself. Then when the situation arises, you can make a positive change in yourself. You may not always be successful, but you will progress, especially when you have small successes.

Think that each person is a world and that others do not have to behave as you expect them to.If you think that it has taken over your life and you feel bad towards everything and everyone, then seek help from a professional to find the origin of these feelings and find the solution to balance your life again.