Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ebomini bakho wenze izizathu zokungayenzi into obekufanele ukuyenza ngokomgaqo. Kukwanokuqiniseka ukuba umntu othile uye wazithethelela ngelinye ixesha kwinto enye.
Ukuzithethelela kufana nokuxoka okumhlophe okuxelwayo, ngaphandle kweenjongo ezimbi, kodwa oko kunokuba ngumkhwa owendeleyo wokukuzisela iingxaki ezinkulu kwixa elizayo. Ukuba usebenzisa izizathu ezininzi, abantu baya kuqala ukungakuthembi.
Sonke sinabahlobo abasoloko befika emva kwexesha okanye abakhalaza ukuba kunzima kakhulu ukunciphisa umzimba. Ngubani ongazange ave malunga naloo mntu uxakeke kangangokuba angabinalo ixesha lokudibana nabahlobo bakhe? Ewe, ukuba ikamva lakho lisezandleni zakho, kutheni ujolise ekwenzeni izizathu ngalo lonke ixesha? Ngaba uyaxoka kuwe ukuze ulungelelanise izizathu zakho okanye uyakholelwa ngokwenene kule nto uyithethayo kwabanye?
Xa usenza izizathu, uzithethelela ngokoqobo kuloo meko. Kodwa bekungayi kuba ngcono ukujongana nenyani kwaye ujongane nayo ngendlela eqolileyo? Kutheni kukhethwa ukwenza njalo? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba ujongene nale nto uyingxengxezayo, ungaphila ubomi obungcono nobonelisayo… Kutheni ke ngoku kulinga ukwenza izizathu?
Ukuba uyeka umsebenzi okanye injongo ebonakala inzima kuwe, isiqabu esibi kwangoko emva koko siqinisa ukuba isizathu osenzileyo sisigqibo esifanelekileyo. Oku kuyakuthethelela isingxengxezo kwaye kuba uya kuziva ulungile xa uyisebenzisa, kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukuba uyakuyiphinda le ndlela yokuziphatha kwixa elizayo. Indlela yokumisa oku kuqiniswa kukuqonda ngokuchanekileyo into oyithethayo xa usenza izizathu kwaye uzama ukutshintsha indlela oziphethe ngayo. Ukuze uyiqonde, funda uqhubeke.
Inertia iyakufika
Unokwenza izithembiso ezingenanto kuwe lonke ixesha. Xa unyaka omtsha uqala, abantu abaninzi benza izigqibo kwaye kamva, benza izizathu zokungazigcini. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba uthembisa ukuqala ukusebenzisa okanye ukutya kakuhle kodwa akukho lutshintsho lwangempela kuwe, xa inkqubo iqala ... yonke into ime. Ngaphandle kokuyiqonda, i-inertia iqala ukoyisa ngenxa yokuba kukhululeke ngakumbi kuwe ukuba uqhubeke nemikhwa yakho yakudala kwaye uzithethelele ngokwenza into enye kaninzi. Nangona uhlala usenza okufanayo ... awusoze ube neenguqu!
Ngaba uyoyika
Zininzi izinto onokuzoyika xa utshintsho luza ... kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, usenokungazi nokuba kwenzeka ntoni kuwe. Mhlawumbi woyika ukuthandabuza, umngcipheko omele ukuwuthatha kolo tshintsho ... OKANYE ukungazi ukuba zinokuba yintoni iziphumo zeenzame zolo tshintsho.
Ngaphantsi kwayo yonke loo nto luloyiko lokuba ungangaphumeleli, unqatshelwe, ugwetywe njengobuthathaka ngabanye, uphele kwiimeko ezingamkelekanga, okanye wenze impazamo. Abanye bethu boyika nokuba singaphumelela, kwaye kufuneka sijongane nomona wabanye. Ezi ziimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo! Ke senza isingxengxezo sokubaphepha ...
Awunayo inkuthazo eyaneleyo
Yintoni ekhuthaza ngakumbi: iminqathe okanye intonga? Ithemba lomvuzo wakho xa wenze ngempumelelo utshintsho lwakho: impilo enkulu nokuba sempilweni, uvuyo ngakumbi emsebenzini, ubomi obungcono? Okanye uloyiko lweziphumo ezibi ukuba awuguquki: ukutyeba kunye nokugula okunxulumene noko, uxinzelelo emsebenzini, okanye ukufa ngokuzisola?
Uninzi lwabantu lukhuthazekile ngaphakathi kwaye abanye abanalo. Ngokwesiqhelo eyona inkuthazo kunye nesikhuthazi sokutshintsha yintlungu okanye uxinzelelo lwemeko okuyo ngexesha elithile. Kude kube ufikelele kwinqanaba eliphantse linyamezeleke ... uya kuhlala apho ukhoyo kwaye wenze izizathu zokungatshintshi.
Iziphumo ebomini bakho zokwenza izizathu
Ukuphila ubomi obuzele zizizathu kunokuba nemiphumo emibi nehlala ixesha elide. Izizathu aziyi kukuthintela kuphela ukufikelela kumandla akho apheleleyo, kodwa ziya kukuthintela nasekuqondeni amathuba, amandla kunye nobuchule onokuba nabo ukukunceda woyise iingxaki eziqhelekileyo kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ukuba awuziceli mngeni wokufezekisa iinjongo ezintsha, ngekhe wazi ukuba yintoni onokukwazi ukuyenza.
Amathuba amatsha ajikeleza kwikona nganye… Nangona kunjalo, awusoze uwafumane ukuba uxakwe zizizathu ezingapheliyo. Ukuba uyazingisa uzithethelela, emva koko unokulandela le miphumo ilandelayo:
- Ukungabikho koxanduva kunye nokukhula
- Iinkolelo ezilinganiselweyo malunga nawe
- Ukuzisola okuqhubekayo
- Iingcinga zesiqhelo zika "kuthekani ukuba ..." "Ukuba ..."
- Ukungaqiniseki ngobomi
- Isigqibo esibi xa usenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo.
- Iiparanoias ezikuthintela ekuthatheni amanyathelo ngokuthatha isigqibo
- Awuyi kuphuma kweyakho indawo yokuthuthuzela
- Ukuthintela amandla akho okusebenza kunye ubuchule
Ngokuqinisekileyo ezi ziphumo azikhokeleli kwindlela yokuphila eyonelisayo. Ngapha koko, bayasikhubaza kwaye bathintele ukuqhubela phambili kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bethu. Ukufumana ngaphezulu kwezizathu zakho, kufuneka uqale uvume ukuba uyazidala kwasekuqaleni. Oku kunokuba kunjalo, kunzima. Nangona kunjalo, kunyanzelekile ukuba ufuna ukunqanda ukunikezela kwiziphumo ezingenakuphepheka. Zibuze le mibuzo ilandelayo ukuze ucingisise ngalo mbuzo:
- Zeziphi izizathu oqhele ukuzenza?
- Kutheni uzinza?
- Kutheni usenza izizathu?
- Emva koko dwelisa iziphumo zokuzithethelela kwaye uzibuze izinto ezinje:
- Ngaba ezi zizathu ziyandithintela ekubeni ndiye phambili?
- Izizathu zikuphazamisa njani ukukwazi kwakho ukufumana le nto uyifunayo?
Nje ukuba ucinge ngako konke oku, uyakuqonda ukubaluleka kokwenza eyakho indima ukuze ngale ndlela, ubomi bakho bube ngcono endaweni yokuba bubi.
Iindidi zezizathu eziqhelekileyo
Ngaba ezinye zixhaphakile kwaye zihlala zinxitywa, ngaba zikhona ezizwakala ziqhelekile kuwe?
- Andinaxesha
- Andikwazi, ndicela uxolo
- Andinamali yokwenza lonto
- Ndimdala kakhulu (okanye ndimncinci kakhulu)
- Andazi ukuba ndenze njani, andinakukunceda
- Ndinjalo kwaye andinakutshintsha
- Kuthekani ukuba ndiyaphazama? Kungcono ndingazami
- Ngoku ayiloxesha elililo
- Kungcono ukulinda
- Andizukubeka esichengeni kuba ayizukusebenza
- Andilunganga ngokwaneleyo
- Ayinguwe, ndim
- Ndizakuyenza mva