Before seeing these 6 ways to regain control of your life, I invite you to watch this short one minute video in which you are going to see what is the best way to start feeling better.
The video is made by a website called genial.guru:
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Now, we are going to see these 6 ways to regain control of your life.
There are moments in life when you have the feeling that everything around you is sinking.
- Work goes bad
- Your relationship goes from bad to worse
- You don't get along with your parents
- You have no money
- You have debts
- An illness
- An accident
- A passing away
- Disputas
- Problems with children
- etc., etc., etc
A thousand things, together or separately, can cause you at any given moment to believe that you can't take it anymore, that you have lost control of your life, that you are in free fall, and that the parachute does not open.
But there are ways to regain control of the situation, and I'm going to tell you 6 that work very well:
1) STAY AWAY.
Go away. Get out. A week, a day, or a few hours, it doesn't matter. Take a train, a plane, the car or walk. Go to a place that you do not know, or that you do not go regularly, that you find it strange. Go alone.
By changing your environment, your mind will be distracted by stimuli that are new to it.
Wherever you go, notes around you: people walking down a busy street, a bird hovering over your head or pecking food off the ground, clouds that change shape and color.
You will see that, despite the enormous problems that you have, life runs its course. The world continues and will continue to function no matter what happens to you.
Acquiring awareness of it will help you relativize your worries. And the stop will cut the succession of negative thoughts that your mind fails to stop in your usual environment.
2) ACCEPT YOUR SITUATION.
It does not mean that you resign yourself. It means stop fighting against her to fight with ella.
It means that you stop wasting your energies trying to change what is not up to you, what you cannot control, and focus on what Yes you can do.
It means optimizing resources: your resources. It means that you stop looking for guilty and excuses and start assuming your responsibilities.
3) RELEASE BALLAST.
Or put another way: take off backpacks and let go. Attachment to material things and people binds us and cuts our wings.
If you could get rid of some of them, that you don't really need in your life and that only put sticks in your wheels, your progress through life would be lighter and less painful.
4) SHARE.
Don't do the Gollum and share with others your feelings, your achievements, your sorrows, your joys and your disappointments. Don't keep it to yourself.
Just as it is good to detach from toxic people, it is also good surround yourself with like-minded, sincere, honest people who love you for who you are, with your strengths and weaknesses.
Even if you think they do not exist, there are, and many.
The problem is that you tend to surround yourself with the bad ones, and that's how it goes ...
If you share your concerns with someone who understands you, who knows what you are going through, you will feel much better. And if that person, in addition, has already overcome a similar experience, the benefit will be spectacular.
This is why support groups of all kinds work so well. If you have a major problem, feel free to find one.
5) BE COMMITTED.
Set yourself a goal that is realistic, Set a deadline for it, and make a firm commitment to meet it. Tell someone you trust. Thus you will be forced to act and comply.
It is not the same to make a resolution and keep it to yourself, than to have a witness to whom you will have to justify your failure.
6) Learn to say NO.
Many of the frustrated people in this world feel this way because they haven't been able to say NO to many things.
You have to understand that it is impossible to satisfy and be liked by all people. When you say YES to everything, you are digging a grave for your own freedom.
Start small. Start saying NO to various requests and you will see how little by little you begin to have more time to take care of yourself.
These 6 steps will help you restore order to your battered life. Follow them and you will turn the moment of crisis you are experiencing into an opportunity for change.
If you know how to take advantage of it, you will come out of the trance wiser, stronger and a better person.
Anna Traver, coach and mentor, retriever of illusions and builder of safe walkways on quicksand. My blog, My twitter and My Facebook Page.
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Thank you for this article, it is very gratifying since most of us Venezuelans are hopeful in a savior to get out of the crisis in the country, unfortunately it is not what we need, the reality is the lack of optimism in believing in ourselves ...